Written by Joann Malanga, Soul Integration Coach, Alchemist, Energy Healing
Staying empowered on the path of spirituality and doing the inner work to live a better life where you are thriving! I will hold energy for you so that you dissolve the root of suffering and pain of where it all started. We will bring the trauma and stories to life and revive the wisdom. There has never been a better time to do this inner work!
The holiday season, filled with love, connection, and celebration, can also bring a unique set of challenges that leave us feeling drained and overwhelmed. Between family gatherings, shopping, planning, and moments of reflection on the year past, it’s easy to lose touch with ourselves and let stress creep in.
Here’s how you can approach the holidays with compassion and self-care, helping you keep your energy in balance and respond gently to any triggers that may arise.
1. Start with your normal morning ritual, working out, walking grounding practices
Holidays can pull us in different directions, so grounding ourselves daily is essential. Here’s a simple grounding ritual to start each morning:
Take a few deep breaths and pray for your desires for the holiday. Trust me when I say the Universe and God will support you in aspiring and making it happen. Focus on your breath as it moves in and out, connecting you to the present moment.
Set an intention. Before you even get out of bed, yes, I’m not kidding; reflect on what you want to embody that day: peace, patience, or love. This intention will help you stay anchored, even when things get hectic.
Visualize roots growing from your feet. Imagine roots reaching deep into the earth, giving you stability and a strong foundation.
By keeping your routine, you’ll ground yourself, feel more centered, be less reactive, and better prepared to respond to the day’s demands.
2. Manage expectations and give yourself permission to say no
Holiday expectations, both from others and ourselves, can be a major source of stress. To protect your energy, set boundaries that align with your well-being. Remember, saying no can be an act of self-love and care. It’s not just about pleasing everyone around you; it’s about helping others and yourself equally.
Remember:
You don’t have to attend every event. Permit yourself to decline invitations that feel overwhelming or don’t align with your needs.
Limit time with people who drain you. Spend more time with those who lift you up and less with those who bring tension.
Practice spiritual protection of your energy.
Cleanse energetically after gatherings, such as with a salt shower or bath. It’s a miracle worker.
Call back your power when you feel drained after being around a lot of people.
Communicate your needs. It’s okay to express your boundaries openly and with kindness. If someone feels disappointed, remind yourself that it’s not a reflection of your worth.
3. Recognize and acknowledge your triggers that seem to be getting lit up all the time
Holiday gatherings can sometimes bring up old wounds, memories, or relationship dynamics that don’t serve us, especially with family members.
Here’s a gentle approach to handling these:
Identify your triggers ahead of time. Knowing what situations or interactions might bring up uncomfortable feelings can help you prepare.
Observe, don’t absorb. When something triggers you, acknowledge the feeling without judging yourself. Practice viewing the emotion from a distance, reminding yourself that you don’t have to absorb the energy of others.
Practice forgiveness, for yourself and others. Even if you’re not ready to forgive certain people, showing yourself compassion and understanding can go a long way in releasing emotional tension.
4. Embrace small self-care rituals
Holidays can feel busy, but integrating small moments of self-care is a powerful way to stay balanced. Here are a few ideas:
Daily breathwork: Taking just five minutes to breathe deeply can bring a sense of calm.
Gratitude journaling: Reflecting on even one thing you’re grateful for each day can shift your energy and invite peace.
Move your body: Whether it’s a walk, stretching, or dancing to your favorite song, movement helps release stress and resets your energy.
5. Visualize a protective energy shield
If gatherings or holiday crowds feel intense, try this visualization:
Imagine a bubble of light surrounding you. Picture yourself in a protective bubble filled with warm, comforting light. You have to literally ASK your higher power to place this light around you and seal you 360 degrees.
This bubble is an energetic boundary, keeping negative energies from entering your space.
Set an intention for protection. Silently affirm, “I am protected and grounded. Only positive energy/unconditional love may enter my space.”
6. Give yourself the gift of compassion
Perhaps the greatest gift you can give yourself this season is self-compassion. No holiday is perfect, and no one expects you to handle everything flawlessly. When triggers arise, or when you feel your energy dipping, remind yourself that it’s okay to feel this way. Remember, you don’t have to tolerate people’s rudeness or lack of love toward you. Sometimes, even a restroom stop can give you the space to take a few breaths and pause.
Even though we are in the holiday season, these triggers can happen during any season. You’re human, and this season, allow that humanity to guide you toward gentleness and self-love. That means saying no to endless events and gatherings, avoiding wasting money on countless gifts, and steering clear of moments lacking love. Go where you feel guided. Go where you feel happy. Go where you feel acknowledged and respected.
This holiday season, remember that your energy and well-being are valuable. By approaching the holidays with faith, setting boundaries, and embracing self-compassion, you can preserve your energy and create meaningful, joyful experiences.
Let this season be one of growth, balance, and peace for you, too!
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Joann Malanga, Soul Integration Coach, Alchemist, Energy Healing
Joann worked in the Healthcare Operations for 30 years, which pushed her into her own awakening 15 years ago. On her journey of self-discovery of dark and light – she found the only way out of the dark was through facing herself and the many lives she had within herself.
She is certainly a spiritual powerhouse with abilities beyond this world. She is an experienced healer with 30 years of practice in the field. Her intuitive abilities encompass clairvoyance, clairsentience, shamanic healing, and alchemy. Joann offers Soul Integration Coaching, specializing in shadow work integration and hands-on healing.
To assist in the process of ascension, Joann helps you utilize the power of self-awareness and incorporate angelic light. Her Soul purpose as a Soul Integration Coach and Healer is driven by the desire to support others on their spiritual journeys.
When you seek a healing session from her, expect to receive clarity, inner guidance and cut through any bullshit. She supports cutting cords, removing any implants, attachments, and trauma cording, or any programming that are ready to go. The cutting through dense energy is absolutely necessary and helps you uproot emotions that have been dormant and suppressed. She believes that every individual possesses their own wellspring of intuition, and her role is to empower you to access that innate wisdom and become your own medicine. As a servant in her soul style, she is dedicated to serving your highest good and working with all of your 12 bodies and allowing the Rays of light to come through a gentle cleansing of your 12 bodies and clearing karma.
Direct, sassy, and fun, she is committed to cutting through illusions and presenting you with the unfiltered truth. With her Coaching skills and leadership qualities, she will guide you and serve as a way-shower on your path – grit and grind girl who will also help you flow with the energy of the divine feminine healing and attract what your soul needs. Her personality embodies authenticity and humor, creating a nurturing and supportive environment for your spiritual growth.
What sets her apart are her unique insights and her deep ability to hold sacred space of integrating spirituality into our three-dimensional lives while lifting your consciousness. Joann is passionate about helping others weave their spiritual journeys into their everyday existence. With her keen self-awareness, strong intuition, and servant leadership skills, she is able to relate on profound levels with all people, at any age, and every religion and every ethnic background. Her ancient wisdom of healing can uproot many traumas that we suppress from childhood all too often causing physical /mental manifestation of pain. She shows you ways to unfold everyday life, as opposed to resisting it. She carries the energy to support you to move your consciousness to the next level as she has.
During her sessions, you can expect a professional and nurturing atmosphere. Her goal is to help you uncover your own truths, overcome obstacles, and embrace your highest potential. She will help you extract, and clear away energy in the way of living your highest potential, along with mother love guidance to light the way. Together, you will clear the old and will create a life filled with purpose, alignment, and joy.
