Written by: Bari Fischer, Executive Contributor
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ADHD is a mental disorder that can lead to a deficit of self-regulation and executive function impairments. We will explore the connection between ADHD and emotional dysregulation, trying to understand why we have trouble managing our outbursts of strong emotions such as anger and why the intensity can feel so overwhelming.
Emotional dysregulation and ADHD
Emotional dysregulation is a common challenge for individuals with ADHD and EFD. These emotions can be characterized by intense experiences with prolonged effects. Meaning, you will feel things more intensely and the feelings will also last a longer period of time. We try to unravel the complexities of emotional dysregulation, shedding light on its causes, manifestations, and effective management strategies, with a special focus on the heightened intensity of life experiences.
Understanding intensity: The ADHD experience
People with ADHD often experience life more intensely than neurotypical individuals. They tend to have a heightened sensitivity that affects their emotions, sensory inputs, and reactions to daily events. We attribute these differences to brain structure and function, particularly in areas responsible for emotional regulation and sensory processing.
The Experience of Emotional Dysregulation
For those with ADHD, emotional dysregulation can feel like a never-ending emotional rollercoaster. Symptoms can range from sudden mood swings to intense reactions to minor events. This can be quite a unique challenge for the executive function system.
Why emotional dysregulation occurs in ADHD
ADHD people have an imbalance of dopamine and norepinephrine which tends to be the root of emotional dysregulation. The discrepancies that come from an imbalance of neurotransmitters in the brain can magnify emotional experiences, while executive function impairments complicate emotional regulation.
Strategies for managing emotional dysregulation
Managing emotional dysregulation involves internal strategies and external support systems. Mindfulness practices, cognitive-behavioral techniques, and creating a supportive environment are key to mitigating the intensity of emotional dysregulation.
Embarking on a journey to understand your emotions, involves deep reflection and self-analysis. You can use strategies to dissect your emotional patterns. This involves asking yourself critical questions to pinpoint triggers and reactions:
Identify triggers
Consider situations that make you tense or on edge. This could be unfair criticism, being shouted at, or feeling embarrassed. Ask yourself, "What can I do to stay calm and handle tough situations, like when someone criticizes me unfairly, yells, or embarrasses me?" “What has worked in the past?”
Recognize physical signs
Anger manifests in various physical forms such as headaches, stomach issues, sweating, or feeling a tightness in your chest. Ask yourself, "What can I do to chill out when I notice my body getting tense, like when my head hurts or my stomach feels weird?"
Reflect on reactions
Notice if you tend to lash out, get angry, cry, blame others, deny responsibility, or engage in negative self-talk when upset. Ask yourself, "How can I respond in a more positive way when I’m upset, instead of lashing out or blaming others?"
Discover calming techniques
List what has helped you calm down in the past. Assess their effectiveness and consider adopting them regularly. Ask yourself, "What calming strategies have worked for me before, and how can I make them a regular part of my routine to manage stress better?"
Observe others' responses
Pay attention to how people react to your behavior through their facial expressions and body language. Ask yourself, "How can I better understand and learn from the way other people's faces and body language react to what I say or do?" What should I be paying attention to?”
Mindfulness and meditation
Mindfulness and meditation have been shown to significantly impact emotional regulation. These practices help individuals become more aware of their emotions and thoughts without judgment, allowing for a better understanding and management of their emotional responses. Ask yourself, "How can I be less judgmental and more aware of my feelings and thoughts by using mindfulness and meditation?"
Cognitive-behavioral techniques
Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) offers valuable tools for managing emotional dysregulation. Techniques such as cognitive restructuring help individuals challenge and change unhelpful thought patterns, while behavioral activation encourages engagement in activities that can improve mood and reduce emotional intensity. Ask yourself, "What steps can I take to challenge my negative thoughts and replace them with positive actions that will make me feel better?"
Emotional awareness and expression
Developing a deeper awareness of one's emotions and learning healthy ways to express them is fundamental. Journaling, art, and talking to a trusted friend or therapist can provide outlets for expressing emotions and understanding their roots. Ask yourself, "How can I become more aware of my emotions and find healthy ways, like journaling or talking to someone, to express them?"
Stress reduction techniques
Since stress often exacerbates emotional dysregulation, incorporating stress reduction techniques into daily routines can be beneficial. This can include exercise, yoga, deep breathing exercises, or engaging in hobbies that relax and distract from emotional triggers. Ask yourself, "What stress-reducing activities can I do every day to help control my emotions better?"
Establishing routine and structure
For individuals, particularly those with ADHD, establishing a routine can provide a sense of stability and predictability, which can help in managing emotional responses. Structure in daily life can reduce anxiety and make it easier to navigate emotional ups and downs. Ask yourself, "How can setting up a daily routine help me handle my emotions better?"
Seek professional support
Sometimes, professional support from a psychologist or psychiatrist is necessary to manage emotional dysregulation effectively. This might include therapy, medication, or a combination of both, tailored to the individual's needs. Ask yourself, "How can reaching out to a therapist, doctor or coach help me get better at handling my emotions?"
Build a support network
Having a network made of different people such as, friends, family, or support groups can provide emotional comfort and practical advice. Sharing strategies and experiences with others who understand can be incredibly affirming and helpful. Ask yourself, "How can creating a circle of support help me deal with tough times?"
Practice self-compassion
Lastly, practicing self-compassion is crucial. Recognizing that managing emotional dysregulation is a journey filled with ups and downs can foster a kinder, more patient attitude towards oneself. Ask yourself, "How can being kind to myself help me handle the ups and downs of managing my feelings?"
Developing skills requires patience and effort. Approach this process without judgment, focusing on noticing and adjusting your reactions. Recognize that this journey towards managing your emotions is part of your personal growth.
Emotional dysregulation and heightened intensity of emotions and experiences are significant challenges for those with ADHD and Executive Function Disorder. Understanding these experiences, recognizing their impact, and employing effective management strategies can help individuals navigate their emotional landscapes more successfully.
If you think you are experiencing RSD or Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria, you can take this quiz. Take your results to a certified ADHD specialist to discuss how to manage your RSD.
If you would like to watch this free webinar; “RSD Toolkit: Strategies for Managing Your Sensitivities in Real Time, click here.
Bari Fischer, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
As an ADHD & Executive Function Coach, Bari is dedicated to guiding individuals on a journey of self-discovery, rooted in honesty, trust, and meaningful conversations. She works closely with clients to navigate the intricate dance of life's choices and consequences, shining a light on their strengths and celebrating every achievement along the way. This path is more than just ticking off milestones; it's about stepping into the lead role of one's own life story, understanding and embracing one's unique brain wiring. With Bari, the coaching journey is an exploration of discovery, growth, and the joy found in every step forward.
