Written by: Annette Densham, Executive Contributor
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I’m one of those older types who grew up without mobile phones, YouTube and Facebook. If I wanted to talk or get info somewhere, I had to make an effort. My kids reckon I am OLD. Their eyes roll when I begin “when I was a kid …”
I grew up with spirit copiers (I even have licence to operate one), fax machines and hand-written letters to communicate with those you love. Back in my day, if you wanted to say something you had to write or call … and then WAIT for a response or keep ringing them until you got them (there were no VM or answering machines}.
Everything took time. We were careful with what we said; choosing our words thoughtfully not to offend or upset.
Prehistoric bullies
As a kid, I was relentlessly bullied at school because I was tall and broad. I knew exactly who my tormentors were because they have to say horrible things to my face. There were no PMs or emails to hide behind. If you wanted to bring someone down, you had to look them in the eye.
How the world has changed.
Messages are instant, and bullying is more insidious because of the tools us humans have created to make communicating easier. My mum used to tell me ‘sticks and stones can break your bones, but names can never hurt you’. Great old-world wisdom. But not true. Unfortunately, the modern-day troll/bully can wreak havoc with well-placed words, destroying confidence and the will to share.
New form of bullying
As much as I love social media, it has breed a new form of bully – the troll. They come in all shapes and sizes. They lurk about in Facebook groups ready to pounce as soon as you post. You send a group message about an event and they are ready with a razor-sharp lecture on all you have done wrong. Or they cushion their nastiness in a flurry of endearments, so they can pretend they are doing the world a favour. They believe their towering intellect and my-shit-does-not stink values and morals gives them the right to share their opinions without dispute.
Let’s face it, social media is a fertile playground for trolls. Hunched over their keyboards, safely behind their screens, they spew nasty vitriol and patronising prose at those of us just trying to get on with our lives. They are everywhere – no social media platform is safe. Their job is to get under your skin and they wield their nastiness without compassion or regret.
Five types of troll
In my experience, I have come across five types of troll. I am sure there are more, but I can only speak from my observations.
1. Grammar Know It All
We all make mistakes. The very nature of social media is we often tap out a response to a post or post something on the fly. Damn autocorrect, or a forgotten pair of glasses means there is typo or a misplaced word. Here is where Grammar Nazi comes to the fore. They take great delight in telliboo-boong you that ‘i should come before e’ or your modifier is dangling. Instead of a PM, politely letting you know you’ve made a boo boo, they post it for all to see.
2. Click Bait Reactor
Modern marketing tells us the headline is the most important aspect of a post – it is what draws people in. Quite often the headline (clickbait) is different to the actual story. Even if the story is about unicorns and rainbows saving the world, we are more likely to click on EVIL DEMONS THWARTED IN END OF DAYS CONQUEST than WORLD SAVED BY FRANK THE UNICORN. The Click Bait Reactor is not interested in the story; they‘re too busy to ACTUALLY read the article so they start ranting about the headline, going off on a tangent that has nothing to do with the story. Because the story doesn’t matter, the troll just wants to share what he/she thinks.
3. Braggart Smarty Pants
I see them all the time in Facebook groups – the person who has an answer for everything. Your kid has nits – they know how to fix it. You have a business question – they’ve been there and one that. You have a personal crisis – well, they have a degree from Whackadoo University and are qualified to help you. You promote something, and they must tell you what you did wrong in your marketing. If you don’t take their advice, they get narky and PM you to tell you you’re an idiot.
4. Bomb Dropper
Or ‘the attention seeker’ troll. This person’s life is always worse than yours. Their pain is deeper. Their successes are bigger and better. They hijack conversations to make it all about them. Even when you try to get the conversation back on track, they have these amazing skills of swinging the thread back to focus on them.
5. I’m Offended
Sometimes things are just funny …and that is ok. But the offended troll, takes everything personally and turns the post into an attack on them and their place in the world. I get we all don’t have the same sense of humour but if you don’t like something, use that amazing appendage at the end of your hand and scroll past it. Ok … blatantly sexist, racist and nasty content is not necessary. There should be no place on social media for deliberate hate.
What to do with a troll
As much as I love a good debate and to stand up for myself - I have found there is no point engaging with a troll. Trolls come from a place of nastiness and self-righteousness – there is no defence against that. A troll wants you to suffer. A troll wants you to engage so they can prove they were right all along. I do try to remember the person on the other end of the keyboard is another human with their trials and tribulations.
You are not going to change their opinion. They’re bullies – hurt people hurt people. Your words will be wasted, and you will end up feeling worse than you did by the initial engagement. If they are ‘friend’, unfriend or unfollow them. Fire needs fuel to spread, starve them of it.
Of course, as a business you do need to ensure you have policies in place to deal with legitimate complaints and to manage trolls. As an everyday person just trying to do their best, I wish I have a better answer. No one likes to be picked on and made to feel awful. If you do attract the attention of a troll and it gets too much, reach out to someone to help you through it. Do not suffer in silence.
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Annette Densham, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine Multi-award-winning PR specialist Annette Densham is considered the go-to for all things business storytelling, award submission writing, and assisting business leaders in establishing themselves as authorities in their field. She has shared her insights into storytelling, media, and business across Australia, UK, and the US speaking for Professional Speakers Association, Stevie Awards, Queensland Government, and many more. Three times winner of the Grand Stevie Award for Women in Business, gold Stevie International Business Award, and a finalist in Australian Small Business Champion awards, Annette audaciously challenges anyone in small business to cast aside modesty, embrace their genius and share their stories.
