Written by: Enolia Foti, Executive Contributor
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There comes a time in each person’s life when we have to set our fears aside and take a leap. It may take everything within us to take the first step, but we will not be disappointed when we finally put our everything into it. When we finally find the courage within to move forward, we look back realizing that the emotion and ego created an illusion above and beyond the actual reality.
What is fear?
Have you ever taken the time to define what “fear” is? Meaning, what is the actual definition of fear for you? We all have a boundary within which we like to operate. We conduct our daily lives within these limits understanding all will fare well within our routine as long as it stays within the set periphery. However, what happens when one goes past the established borderline into unknown territory. One's emotions may bubble up, there may be a perceived lack of control or inability how to navigate through the circumstance, in other words, fear sets in.
For me, fear is surpassing a set boundary in which my ego is comfortable. I have a routine that works and feels safe within certain limits. It is when I surpass this perimeter to the unexpected that my worries, concerns, and fears engage. It is when I go beyond these confines to the unknown that my ego creates a potentially negative story or outcome. Know that my ego gets extremely active when I am out of my comfort zone and this is what engages fear me. What about you?
Why be afraid?
Whenever we journey into unfamiliar territory our ego creates a story. The question is, is it a positive story or a negative one. When things are unpredictable and we are uncertain of the outcome, it is normal to hope for a certain desired conclusion. We love to plan our days, expecting we have control of what the next day in our life should look like or be. However, do we know that the next day will go as planned? In cases when undesired interruptions come into play, don’t we just adjust? Ask yourself, if I have the power to adjust to any unexpected interruption, why would I fear the unknown?
Is planning real?
Planning is something we all like to do. However, there is no day promised to follow what plan we have put in place. In the end, no matter what comes at us, we choose whether to navigate through unexpected circumstances or not. Knowing that we have this capability, it is up to us to hone the skill of our agility when our plan is disrupted. We can do this within the realms of fear, or with an understanding that we can always get back to a calm and peaceful path if we do not let our emotions run away from us.
Recognize limits
To recognize our limits, understanding that we do not have anything to fear, we can consciously surpass all limitations resulting in the ability to prosper. We can choose to engage in new experiences and territories expanding the capacity in which we operate knowing that our heart's desire will always lead us into a new realm. This is how we grow, engage, and thrive. To consistently surpass our set limitations is to exercise our ability to embrace change as it comes and blossom as we are nurtured.
When we reflect back
Once I have moved through the “story” of what I feared, I reflect on the account. On every occasion, I realized what was feared because “I” created a projected possibility or result of my imagination. If you focus on a negative outcome, your being aligns with your thoughts even impacting the delivery of your statements. In looking back, the unraveling of what took place is never the insurmountable challenge I perceived I had to climb. What I learned is that when the human condition is challenged, it loves to create stories. Tales that prey on insecurities, lack of capabilities, and knowledge; testing my value of self and worthiness. The generated narrative has obstacles to climb that seem overwhelming or even unbeatable.
We are all capable of navigating through what seems impossible. Reflecting shows, me that my biggest obstacle is how I perceive the challenge. In this case, my envisioning needs to be roped in and not the state of affairs. The situation changes every moment – because life changes every moment. I can choose to move through the story with an emotional reaction at every turn or as the observer selecting the appropriate path at each turn to traverse each hurdle before me.
Change is the Constant in life
Making fear the illusion transforms the living of life. Envision a positive outcome when confronted or challenged. Intuit a positive result whatever the situation or occurrence. Observe and circumnavigate all impossibilities instead of emotionally reacting, which allows for dealing with the most egregious of problems.
To constantly expand our constraints, alter our routine, modify our habits, invite new circumstances along with make different decisions to get new outcomes embraces our capability of living life to its fullest. The ability to explore and discover at our own pace will reshape the world we create making it significant and a learning experience to share with others. This is how we create a new story in life; daring to engage in our hopes, dreams, passions, and loves. Life is what we make it if we can set aside our fears.
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Enolia Foti, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
Enolia shares ancient wisdom to enrich our modern lives. Enolia traveled the world to study with indigenous elders of the Ojibwa, Lakota, and Yaqui of north America to the Mapuche of Chile to the Luhya of Kenya, just to name a few. This foundation guided ENOLIA to teach, counsel, heal and empower others to reach their goals. Her 20+ years navigating the dynamics of the corporate world fortified her with leadership development, performance excellence and empowerment coaching. A natural orator, ENOLIA harmonizes corporate experience with a broad knowledge base including many facets of energetic medicine, and all of which are focused on healing and the empowerment of the soul.
