Written by: Grace Alfafara, Executive Contributor
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Humans have a weird tendency to cling to negative thoughts that it is so easy to fail and self-sabotage our own life or others whether we do it consciously or subconsciously.
Our behavior shows the quality of our thoughts. Our thoughts are mainly full of information and it doesn’t know what is right or wrong. This is when our intuition from our heart and gut with soul connection comes into the picture and brings clarity to our mind. Because the mind is where the battle begins. But the heart is where the clarity outshines the self-doubt. For self-doubts is the number one killer of all dreams. The dreams and visions we are afraid of having because we doubt that we are not good enough, or worthy, or deserving enough to have it all.
The battle of the mind may look like this that may resonate to most of us:
“I am not enough”; “I feel so stupid asking questions”; “I don’t feel adequate”; “I don’t see myself beautiful or worthy enough”; “I am not smart”; “I am so stupid”; “I don’t trust myself enough”, and so on and forth.
We are so good at self-sabotaging that we should have a Ph.D. in clinging to negativity programming.
When we learn to choose ourselves through self-love with self-care healthy habits, we get to rediscover who we truly are and the quality of our thoughts.
The quality of our thoughts shows how we process our discernment ability to understand the capacity of our intrinsic and extrinsic world with its patterns.
When we feel afraid to face the fear that life brings to challenge who we truly are, we easily bombard our mind with thoughts of disempowering that can break us apart – and that recovery to the healing process is determined by how we choose to see through the quality of our choices.
You see, the purpose of fear is to challenge us. It challenges us to seek freedom, peace, joy, true love, truth, kindness, and an abundance of empowering life experiences. It is not like those positive aspects of life did not exist. It’s been there all along. We just don’t recognize its patterns, because we are in a fear state of being when we keep replaying the self-doubts movies in our mind. So, let fear be your ally. Use it as fuel to launch who you truly are.
When the quality of our thoughts is being led by our heart and gut with our soul, we align our center energies with our authenticity. Because within our vortex of authenticity is the highest form of LOVE. When we vibrate in that frequency, love is enough. For love comes in formless essence flow of light with the shadow work to face our fear with courage, and it brings us to see the light of grace in between the cosmos of consciousness. Love never dies and it just keeps transforming into another form of love abundance.
For fear is a choice and the courage to face it is choosing to be brave again, to believe again, and to trust the process again. Because it is not about being perfect. It is about purpose. And it is a decision to be courageous enough even though we are still afraid to face our fear.
You see, the mind is indeed a battleground. It can be programmed and reprogrammed to feel, see, think, say, hear. But it can also have the ability to manifest the most prominent thought. The question is who is in control of the thought in our mind? Is it you, or is it the value we choose to have, or the belief we choose to believe in the most? What do we truly want our thoughts to choose and decide the kind of quality we prominently want to give ourselves a gift of experience with?
For example, most people have never experienced true love. It all depends if they choose to believe it truly exists or not. This also depends on the programming of their belief system in their mind and what they truly value in their hearts that shows the choice quality of their thoughts.
“True Love isn't a fairy tale. It's a choice. The quality of your choice comes from the intention of your thoughts and your heart's authenticity. For it takes skin and huge courage to embody its essence as part of the experience.” – Grace Alfafara
Learning how to position ourselves when we have the clarity of the quality of our thoughts from the heart-gut-brain with soul-coherent connection, is the most important and purposeful to be, do, have, and even co-create.
What would you do if you were in a state of being when you are in the healthiest version of yourself? Limitless, right? Of course! You would be creating healthy habits of inspired actions.
The quality of your thoughts would be full of insights with wisdom and ideas that empower you and others to collaborate and strategize for growth regardless of the differences in brand or personalities.
Our thoughts create the kind of reality we want to experience either a choice to suffer or a choice to be empowered. We at times confuse the difference between suffering and pain. It is hard for us to trust the journey process in how we position ourselves in the equation of our choices. You see, there are 2 types of pain, as you well know, pain in life will always be there as part of the challenge by the law of nature. But suffering will always be a choice from our thoughts especially if we react through the fear of self-doubts i.e., “What if this and that?”
The 2 types of pain are the pain of self-discipline and the pain of regret. Again, it all boils down to the quality power of choice. There’s always a natural cause and effect with every thought we prominently value to believe in the most. That is the manifestation of the consequences we choose to experience when we align our focus, energy, and time to any prominent thoughts we have, either disempowering or empowering thoughts, that either break us or make us.
In conclusion, the quality of our thoughts that is empowering will lead us to clarity in co-creating the new reality of the gift of life experiences. It is best to be authentic about how to nurture our thoughts with our heart desires and fulfill them with inspired actions through healthy habits. The reward is limitless when we choose the healthiest quality of thoughts that also leads us to be a person of value with substance. These qualities breed attributes of who we truly are to the core of our authenticity. So, to learn to position our own authority to our own life and self, we need to truly have a self-inventory of the quality of our thoughts – not only in our personal lifestyle, but in our professional life too, and how we interact with others.
To start your journey in co-creating a quality of your thoughts start by having a deep dive conversion with yourself. Here’s a blog post I wrote and feel free to comment on my blog: DEAR YOUNGER ME
Because self-care in taking personal accountability is about taking our power back. And this is part of co-creating quality thoughts. When we honor the quality of our thoughts in a positive way, we create true peace and it starts from the home of our hearts. It starts with you and I. Peace isn’t out there. It is created by people who have a high value on quality thoughts that are empowering and not disempowering.
To know more about how to understand the quality of our thoughts, and the cause and effect of making an effective decision in positioning ourselves in tough times without losing ourselves in it, connect your journey with me. I will be your guide in how to strategize a pattern of your belief system that can lead you to empower your heart in working around your values, strengths, and purpose amidst the storm of life you go through. I see you; I understand and feel you. I have been there myself and I am here to help.
Website: Grace-Through Journey
Grace Alfafara, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
Grace Alfafara, is a mother to 4 teenagers, a Published Author, Grief Advocate, Certified Sophrologist, and a Certified Transformational Life Coach, in which she specializes in emotional and adaptability intelligence. She also develops an online empowerment Masterclass. She has lived in 5 countries and has worked as a Philanthropist for several years with her family. Her background education in Western culture on Psychology, Quantum Consciousness, and life growing up in a blend of Eastern and African cultures full of diverse life experiences have brought immense wisdom within the span of her life. A mother on a mission: empowering others to embody their true resilient essence wholeheartedly.
