Jamila Banks is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, transformational life coach, and founder of the Foster & Banks Walk in Faith Foundation and CEOME LLC. She specializes in holistic personal development, mental health advocacy, and empowering individuals to thrive through resilience and purpose.
Have you ever found yourself dreading the holiday season instead of celebrating it? For many, this time of year brings stress, loneliness, and even depression. If this resonates with you, keep reading to explore effective strategies to overcome holiday depression and reclaim your joy.
What is holiday depression?
Holiday depression, sometimes referred to as seasonal affective disorder (SAD) or situational depression, is a form of emotional distress that emerges during the holiday season. Common triggers include:
Unrealistic expectations: The pressure to create a "perfect" holiday experience can lead to disappointment.
Financial stress: Gift-giving, travel, and hosting can strain budgets.
Loneliness: Feeling isolated or grieving the absence of loved ones can intensify sadness.
Seasonal changes: Shorter days and reduced sunlight can disrupt mood-regulating hormones.
Recognizing the signs of holiday depression
It’s essential to identify the symptoms of depression to address them effectively. Common signs include:
Persistent feelings of sadness or emptiness
Fatigue and lack of energy
Difficulty concentrating
Changes in appetite or sleep patterns
Loss of interest in activities you once enjoyed
Feeling hopeless or overwhelmed
If these symptoms persist or worsen, consider seeking support from a mental health professional.
6 ways to manage holiday depression
1. Set realistic expectations
Let go of the pressure to create a "perfect" holiday. Focus on meaningful moments and prioritize connections over materialistic ideals.
2. Practice self-care
Prioritize your well-being by getting enough sleep, eating nutritious meals, and staying physically active. Incorporate relaxation techniques like yoga, meditation, or deep breathing.
3. Stay connected
Reach out to friends, family, or community groups. Use technology to stay in touch if in-person visits aren’t possible, and consider volunteering to foster a sense of purpose.
4. Set healthy boundaries
Learn to say no to overwhelming commitments. Limit interactions with people who contribute to your stress, and protect your time and energy.
5. Plan a budget
Avoid financial stress by creating a holiday budget. Stick to it by opting for low-cost or non-material gifts and focusing on thoughtful gestures.
6. Seek professional support
If feelings of depression persist, consider therapy or counseling. Support groups can also provide a sense of community and understanding.
Finding gratitude and joy
Despite its challenges, the holiday season can also be an opportunity for reflection and gratitude. Here are some ideas:
Start a gratitude journal: Write down three things you’re thankful for each day.
Give back: Volunteer or donate to causes that resonate with you.
Celebrate small wins: Acknowledge your progress and practice self-compassion.
When to seek help
If depression is affecting your ability to function, seek help from a mental health professional. Therapy can provide coping strategies and support tailored to your needs. Remember, asking for help is a sign of strength.
The holidays don’t have to be overwhelming. By recognizing the signs of holiday depression and taking proactive steps, you can create a season filled with moments of connection, gratitude, and self-care. Prioritize your mental health and focus on what truly matters.
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Dr. Jamila Banks, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist
Jamila Banks is a transformational leader, licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, and Founder of the Foster & Banks Walk in Faith Foundation and CEOME LLC. Growing up in South Central Los Angeles, she overcame adversity to become a champion for holistic transformation, empowering individuals and families to thrive. With a background in mental health, community advocacy, and personal development, Jamila combines professional expertise with her personal journey to inspire change. Her mission: to help others turn challenges into opportunities and lead fulfilling lives filled with purpose and resilience.