Niketa Vakani is a Self-Love and Relationship coach helping individuals find a deeper love and acceptance of themselves, resulting in an improvement of their relationships and others areas of their life. She has been a guest speaker on the podcasts - The Unfltered Podcast: For some reason I had to have MS and Sunday SoulDay.
What does it truly mean to embody love? It goes far beyond romantic gestures or fleeting emotions. Being an embodiment of love means radiating kindness, compassion, and understanding through your thoughts, words, and actions in everyday life. It’s about recognising how your presence can create a ripple effect, inspiring positivity and connection in those around you.
What does it mean to be an embodiment of love?
Being an embodiment of love means emanating love through one’s words, actions, thoughts, character, and heart in daily life. It encompasses an awareness of how one’s presence and daily exchanges can impact the world through their ripple effect.
When a person operates from the higher frequency of love, they hold the power and ability to magnetize and manifest a blissful life experience for themselves and others around them.
This is not just about romantic love but a deep, universal love that radiates kindness, compassion, and understanding for all beings in the world.
Five ways to embody love in your life
1. See love as your be-ing
When love becomes your natural essence in life, every decision, every thought, and every action you take comes from a place of kindness and purity. Rather than perceiving other individuals as separate entities, you view them as extensions of yourself.
What I mean by this is that you possess the deep understanding and knowledge that, just like you, everyone is striving to be happy. With this belief, you become less judgmental and more accepting of others’ actions, knowing they too are fueled by their own desire to live a joyful life.
Consequently, you also become more forgiving of others when their actions do not align with yours. You hold the understanding that their choices are determined by their own knowledge and experiences on their life journey. By all means, this does not imply that you embrace others’ wrongdoings. Instead, you evolve into a being who does not condemn, criticize, or react to others’ actions, as you remain firmly focused on your own path of radiating love and benevolence.
When your human be-ing is love, love becomes unconditional. It does not judge, take record of wrongs, or depend on the reciprocity of someone's love for you to offer it freely and wholeheartedly.
Embodying and practicing love as your be-ing in life will set you free!
2. Radiate love and kindness everywhere you go
Ponder that warm, fuzzy feeling you get from a special person in your life, maybe a cuddle from your partner, a child, or even a pet. How does it feel when you bask in that gratifying sense of safety and pleasure? Can you feel that glow in your body?
Now envision being the person who diffuses this warmth and fuzziness to everyone you interact with throughout your day. Imagine how your actions can affect the people in your presence, allowing them to experience the radiance of your love! The transfer of this loving energy can elevate the souls of those around you, subsequently enabling them to share that same feeling with others they encounter. Wow!
When love becomes your natural way of being, it can inspire others to open their hearts as well. Being loving creates a ripple effect, and it only needs to start with you!
3. Be a beacon of light
We all know at least one soul who has the ability to walk into a room and win the hearts of everyone around them. They have a natural illumination and attraction for love.
Do you know that you actually have the power to be this person? Just as we can feel someone's iciness through their body language, facial expression, or general demeanor, we can also sense the warmth and love of a person who greets us with a sincere smile, a hug, or a compliment. Have you ever asked yourself, “How hard is it to be a source of light for others?”
What is actually stopping you? Which path requires the least resistance, to be cold or to be loving?
Whilst I understand that life can present us with challenges or situations that do not allow us to be happy all the time, it is beneficial to shift our perspective in these moments and remind ourselves of the blessings we do have. When you are able to focus on the abundance in your life, you can find some pleasure and relief in knowing that life is not as dire as it may seem.
Often, we compare ourselves to our own defined measures of other people's successes, accomplishments, or financial status, and this is where our insecurities and lack of fulfillment in life transpire. Acceptance of where you are in life is key. You have your own unique journey! When you develop a mindset of being content with where you are in your journey, coupled with the faith that you are exactly where you are meant to be, you can enlighten your own being and become that beacon of light for others too.
4. Be present
We all have that friend who looks over our shoulder in a crowded room when we’re trying to talk to them about something important. How does it feel when we aren’t given the presence and attention we need in that moment? Practicing presence can be difficult when we have our own distractions in life.
Sometimes, we think we’re actively listening when people are telling us their "story." However, we often zone out, perhaps thinking about our own related story and feeling the urge to interrupt and share it. This is generally done with the intention of wanting them to know we can relate to their feelings. However, people feel differently. How you feel about a similar situation is not directly proportionate to how they feel!
Becoming an active listener requires undivided attention and sometimes putting yourself in their shoes. Showing empathy and understanding while listening can enable that person to feel your genuine care and love in the moment. A slight tilt of your head or a gentle touch on their arm while listening can often speak volumes!
Remember, one of the greatest gifts you can give someone is your presence!
5. Love yourself first, that's where the magic begins
The one person who will always be with you for the rest of your life is yourself! Imagine how you would treat yourself if you were in a relationship with yourself. What would you do to make yourself happy? How would you apply the languages of love to yourself? Which words of affirmation would you speak to yourself every day? How would you serve yourself?
I’ve given you a lot to think about here, and yes, grab that pen and paper and make a list of answers! This is a very powerful exercise, and one that I conduct with my clients regularly.
When you truly, deeply fall in love with yourself, you glow magnificently! What I mean by this is that the unwavering love for yourself is so deeply rooted that nothing external can affect your inner being or state of mind. People also respond to you and treat you with the same amount of love and respect that you give yourself. Have you ever noticed that?
Taking care of your emotional, mental, and physical well-being fills your cup to the brim and allows you to pour out your love more generously. Remember to top yourself up frequently too!
Our inner critic can often cause us to be harsh with ourselves or trick us into thinking that being self-loving means operating from our ego. Far from it! As babies, we were born with love. We expressed our needs by crying! We never thought we were being selfish then, so why now? I’m not suggesting that we throw our toys out of the pram when we don’t get what we want, but we are allowed to have reasonable desires, such as having our own loving needs met.
We feel much more joyful when we are recharged, and consequently, our loving energy can filtrate out to others too, making it a win for everyone!
Loving yourself also entails learning to forgive yourself for any past mistakes and reminding yourself that you acted from a being who had a specific level of knowledge and awareness at that time. You are growing every day and learning from your previous choices. The past is the past, it cannot be changed, but you can take the lessons forward and create a more loving you!
For those immersed in love, everything appears vibrant with life. The power of love is boundless. Falling in love with yourself is a majestic and magical experience. I have worked with many clients using mirror work to help them find a deeper, longer-lasting love for themselves!
Please contact me if you would like to know more about how we can make this happen together!
Niketa Vakani, Self-Love and Relationship Coach
Niketa is a dedicated Self-Love and Relationship Coach, inspiring countless individuals with her story of resilience and personal transformation. Faced with immense challenges, including an abusive marriage and severe health issues leading to paralysis, Niketa has triumphed over adversity through unwavering faith and determination.
After being diagnosed with multiple sclerosis, she fought her way back to health, relearning to walk and reclaiming her life. A Jay Shetty certified coach , Niketa now uses her experiences to empower others, helping them build self-love, strength, resilience, and confidence. Her life motto, "Face your challenges, dance with life" encapsulates her approach to overcoming obstacles and finding joy admist adversity.
