El'Deity Princey, also known as The Miracle Coach, is a specialized clinician, author, and transformational coach who empowers individuals to transcend adversity, heal from trauma, and manifest a life of abundance. With expertise in psychology, child welfare, and the metaphysical, El'Deity helps clients overcome obstacles and reclaim their power.
Healing and weight loss are deeply connected, rooted not just in physical effort but also in addressing the emotional and generational traumas that shape our behaviors. Through personal experiences and the science of epigenetics, I’ve learned that true transformation requires healing the mind, body, and soul. In this article, I’ll explore how childhood trauma impacts weight loss and share practical steps to help you heal, grow, and reclaim your power.
How family dynamics shape health and weight loss
I am a product of the crack epidemic and the breakdown of the Black family unit during the 1980s and 1990s. My experiences growing up have shaped everything I know about health, healing, and weight loss. From living on campus between 2017 and 2023, witnessing my peers' family dynamics, and working with diverse clients, I learned one essential truth: family is foundational to holistic success physically, mentally, financially, spiritually, and emotionally. Without a solid community structure, family structures often collapse. This lesson is deeply tied to our health and well-being, including weight loss.
The link between trauma, genetics, and weight loss
Through my studies, I discovered the concept of epigenetics, which explores how trauma can imprint on our genes and influence behavior across generations. Epigenetics reveals how the effects of trauma aren't just emotional. They're physical, impacting our biology and the way our bodies function. This means that our trauma can alter how our genes express themselves, potentially making us more susceptible to stress, weight gain, and other health issues.
For instance, stress-induced trauma can trigger the body’s fight-or-flight response, which over time can lead to an imbalance in our metabolism, ultimately influencing how we store fat and process nutrients. Our genetics might predispose us to certain conditions, but trauma can enhance or suppress the expression of those genes, creating a complex relationship between our past and present health.
Before diving into how this relates to weight loss, let's consider some key statistics: According to the National Library of Medicine, “69% of women and 59% of men reported wanting to lose weight.” For many, weight loss feels like an insurmountable challenge. I’ve faced it myself, reaching my heaviest at 210 lbs and becoming borderline diabetic.
In college, I became fascinated by the Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) score, a framework developed by the CDC to measure the impact of childhood trauma. This 10-question assessment highlights how early experiences such as abuse, neglect, or household dysfunction can have lifelong effects. Research shows that scoring four or more on the ACEs increases the risk of severe health issues, including diabetes, heart disease, and depression. Shockingly, 60% of adults report at least one ACE.
How trauma affects weight
Trauma alters how we perceive ourselves and our environment. For children growing up in abusive or neglectful situations, their brains may develop in a constant state of fight, flight, freeze, or fawn. These responses, deeply embedded in their neurological pathways, often carry into adulthood, influencing everything from decision-making to coping mechanisms.
For example, someone verbally or emotionally abused about their weight might internalize those messages. This can lead to extreme behaviors: either obsessively avoiding the traits they were criticized for or unconsciously perpetuating them. Overeating, binge drinking, or other coping mechanisms can mask deeper emotional pain, providing temporary relief but compounding the challenge of weight loss.
The National Library Of Medicine highlights how “heavy episodic alcohol use during young adulthood may contribute to excess weight gain,” especially for college students exploring new freedoms. Without intentional healing, unresolved trauma can manifest in self-sabotaging patterns, making weight loss and other goals feel out of reach.
Shifting the narrative
My personal journey reflects this struggle. At my heaviest, I was living with an abusive partner. Despite my attempts to lose weight, I found myself stuck in familiar patterns: hitting snooze instead of going to the gym, indulging in comfort foods, and avoiding the root of my pain. It wasn’t until I sought therapy and committed to healing for myself, not for anyone else, that I began to see progress.
Through this commitment, I lost 75 lbs, but more importantly, I healed emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. Weight loss wasn’t just about the physical; it became a holistic journey of self-discovery and healing. Tools like therapy, supportive communities, and accountability partners helped me break the cycle of trauma. The ACE pyramid may suggest a path toward early death, but intelligence and awareness have the power to rewrite our narratives.
One of my clients, who faced the painful trauma of sexual assault by her father, courageously confronted her past. Through a combination of self-reflection and support, she shed 30 pounds, releasing not only physical weight but the emotional burden she had carried for years. These stories demonstrate that healing and transformation are possible, no matter how deep the pain.
Empowering change
Knowledge is power. When we know better, we can do better. Healing begins with awareness, love, and intention. I believe in the transformative potential of every individual to overcome their pain and achieve their goals. Weight loss can be a powerful step in that journey, but it requires more than motivation it demands a deep connection to your “why” and a willingness to try something different.
Healing trauma takes time, patience, and support. You don’t have to navigate it alone.
I am honored to support others on their path to healing and transformation. My experiences have taught me resilience and ignited my passion for helping others create the lives they desire.
You can heal. You can transform. And yes, you can lose weight.
For guidance, coaching, and tools to support your journey, book a Restorative-Mind Session with me today. Let’s start rewriting your story and transforming your relationship with weight and yourself.
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El'Deity Princey, Transformational Clinician, Author, and Empowerment Coach
El'Deity Princey, known as The Miracle Coach, is a clinician, author, and transformational coach dedicated to helping clients overcome adversity and manifest the life they deserve. Having survived sexual abuse from ages 3-13, physical abuse, homelessness, and financial hardship, El'Deity transformed these experiences into a powerful healing practice rooted in resilience, psychology, and the metaphysical. She empowers others to break free from toxic cycles with deep compassion and unique modalities, reclaim self-worth, and align with their highest potential. El'Deity’s mission: To inspire people to unlock their inner miracles, heal from trauma, and thrive in life
