Written by: Mariann Sebestyen, Executive Contributor
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An individual with feelings of insecurity is someone who has a general sense of uncertainty or anxiety regarding their worth, abilities, skills, and value as a person. This gives the impression that they are at risk or in danger. There may be something you would like to try out right now, such as an application for a promotion, a date, getting to know someone or enrolling in a course. However, a voice inside makes you question if you deserve all you've achieved, or if you are good enough.
Insecurities can appear in your life in various ways:
Feeling inadequate daily
Lack of self-worth, self-esteem, and self-confidence
Feeling incapable or ill-equipped to cope with stress
A general sense of uncertainty about the world
Feeling anxious about relationships with others
Limited ability to make quick decisions and poor decision-making skills
Being overly critical of yourself and other people
To mask how you really feel, you portray yourself as overly confident
An obsession with perfection that leaves you unsatisfied
Avoidance of social situations and a desire to be alone
A difficulty trusting others and building relationships based on mutual understanding and trust
Poor communication patterns that place more importance on the other person's needs and wants
What causes your insecurity:
An absence of family emotional support: Individuals who have a loving, supportive family are less likely to experience insecurity
The absence of physiological needs satisfaction: People who are unable to meet their physical needs, such as food, housing, and safety, often have difficulty meeting psychological needs, such as security.
Lack of emotional intelligence: People with low emotional intelligence cannot accurately detect their feelings and those of others, leading to unhealthy relationships and diminished trust.
An absence of openness: People who are not open, curious, and comfortable in new situations report more stress and fear, resulting in a lower sense of safety.
Lack of agreeableness: Individuals who are disagreeable experience more interpersonal conflict since they are unable to assist, support, or empathize with others. As a result of these characteristics, social situations are perceived as risky and less secure.
The presence of a mental health condition: Anxiety and depression are bidirectionally related to insecurity. Narcissistic personality disorder and borderline personality disorder also have a connection to insecurity.
Overdependence on others: When people become dependent on others or relationships, they become insecure since they perceive a risk of the relationship ending.
Taking steps to address insecurity will help a person minimize its negative effects, and find renewed stability, security, and a sense of worth that will propel them towards happiness and increased well-being.
How to overcome your insecurity:
Talk to a therapist. The key to becoming more confident and feeling more empowered about yourself and your abilities is to address your insecurities and worries rather than avoid them. Insecurity causes people to feel insecure and unsure about relationships, so they are unable to share their experiences and feelings with others, which leads to isolation and shame.
Self-talk: How you talk to yourself and how you see the world will greatly influence your insecurities. More secure and comfortable people are those who speak to themselves more positively, challenge their negative self-talk, stay focused on the future, and find positive aspects in the world around them.
Practice self-compassion: Compassion and self-love are essential. You are more likely to have effective changes if you give these to yourself rather than looking for them from others. By loving yourself, you create a sense of security within yourself.
Reparent Yourself: Parents can impart many lessons and examples to you that can contribute to insecurity. Learn new perspectives about yourself, other people, and the world around you by closely examining your beliefs. As a result of this process, you can establish a sense of security and self-worth. By changing your mindset and perception of yourself, you will be able to form a stronger view of yourself and strengthen your beliefs.
Let’s work on your self-confidence together! I am happy to listen and help you to achieve your goals. You can reach out to me by email or book a chat with me.
Mariann Sebestyen, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
Mariann Sebestyen is an expert in inner child wound healing, breaking free from unhealthy patterns and restoring a healthier self-concept. Adversity in early life left her with developmental challenges, childhood wounds, unmet needs, and the feeling of powerlessness and helplessness. Mariann generated strategies to extraordinarily change her relationship with herself, step into her power and create a positive self-image to become. She has since dedicated her life to helping others unleash their power, letting their true selves shine, and confidently move towards a new life. She is the founder of Inner Child Wound Healing and the Childhood Trauma Healing Journey program. Her mission: Self Restoration.
