High Achiever, But Are You Fulfilled?
- Brainz Magazine
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Psychologist Helping Professionals & Parents Resolve Depression, Anxiety, ADHD, Trauma, and Live a Fulfilled & Bold Life | Author of the Bestseller Book, “You Are Not-Depressed. You Are Un-Finished.” | Keynoter & Podcaster
Let’s cut to it. You’ve built success. You’ve hit milestones. You’ve earned respect. But deep down, does it feel like enough?
Rate yourself from 1 to 10 (1 = Very Low, 10 = Very High):
What is your current level of achievement?
What is your current level of fulfillment?
Most high performers score high on the first—and hesitate on the second. It stings. That hesitation? It matters.
The fulfillment gap
You know how to achieve. Your discipline, resilience, and drive are unmatched. You execute. You deliver. You win.
But fulfillment doesn’t come from productivity hacks or performance metrics. It’s deeper—and often neglected.
Most high achievers live with a silent paradox: high accomplishment, low fulfillment. And they rarely talk about it. They are often not even aware of this gap.
Their success becomes armor. Their identity becomes a persona. And inside, they feel:
Disconnected
Unseen
Like they’re performing their life, not living it
It’s more common than you think. A Harvard Business Review study found that 50% of CEOs feel lonely. Another study puts it at 61%. This isn’t occasional solitude—it’s chronic disconnection. And it has a cost.
The hidden cost
Unfulfillment shows up as:
Burnout masked as drive
Anxiety behind ambition
Depression behind success
Physical symptoms—cardiovascular stress, gut issues, insomnia
The sense of “I’ve done so much... but still feel unfinished”
The message society gives achievers is: “Suck it up. Keep going.”
But here’s the truth: You weren’t meant to build a powerful life that feels empty.
The new frontier: Fulfillment science
Achievement is a well-mapped science. Parenting, education, leadership, athletics—it’s all built
around it.
Fulfillment? We’re just starting to understand it.
I’ve spent over 30 years as a psychologist, star performer therapist, trauma expert, and executive coach. And I’ve been in that same unspoken struggle—achieving while silently battling anxiety and depression.
Through research, lived experience, and clinical breakthroughs, I discovered a new lens. A deeper path.
It starts with what I call your Emotional Bill of Rights—seven core emotional needs that must be honored if you want to feel truly alive.
Link to the Bill of Rights: Click here.
When they’re dismissed, neglected, or violated, you may keep climbing, but the summit will always feel hollow.
The 7 emotional rights
Here’s where you reflect. On a scale of 1–10, how aligned are you with each of these:
I belong. I have trusted relationships, affection, and psychological safety.
I am complete. I am not defined by past pain, failure, or trauma.
I am boundless. I live in tune with my body, nature, and physical vitality.
I matter. I am seen, valued, and honored beyond my output.
I make. I create, contribute, and leave a meaningful mark.
I am. I express my truth, voice, and values without apology.
I soar. I live in alignment with purpose, and I’m still expanding.
These aren’t “soft” ideals. They’re the foundation of sustainable, soul-aligned success.
It’s time to reclaim your fulfillment
Ask yourself:
Have I sacrificed my fulfillment in the name of achievement?
Have I settled for status over soul?
Have I been so focused on the climb that I lost sight of why I started?
Here’s the truth: You’re not broken. You’re unfinished.
My bestselling book, You Are Not Depressed. You Are Un-Finished., dives into how to reclaim these emotional rights and finally feel whole again.
Link to the book: Click here.
You’ve already proven you can win. Now it’s time to feel alive while doing it.
Read more from Dr. Ardeshir Mehran
Dr. Ardeshir Mehran, High-Achievers Depression & Anxiety Disruptor
Dr. Ardeshir Mehran is disrupting the mental health field. His mission: Help to heal depression and to ease he emotional suffering of people across the world. Everyone else portrays depression as an immovable cause, a mood disorder that must be treated. Dr. Mehran busts this myth and focuses attention on the real culprit: the unfulfilled life we must lead when we deny our birthrights. He is the developer of The Bill of Emotional Rights©, based on 30 years of research, coaching, and clinical work. Ardeshir is a psychologist, trauma therapist, and behavioral researcher. He has a Ph.D. and a Master's from Columbia University, New York City. He lives in Northern California with his wife, son, and Lucy (family’s golden retriever).
