Written by: Sarah Dyer, Executive Contributor
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Heartbreak for some can feel like a never-ending cycle of attracting the wrong relationships, with people who reject, abandon, betray, ghost or discard without closure. These toxic relationships or situation-ships can leave us feeling emotionally drained, invalidated, and unworthy. But you can break free from this cycle and heal from the wounds holding you back.
The wounds that cause us to attract unhealthy relationships are often rooted in our childhood, where caretakers or parents, for one reason or another, may not have been able to meet our needs. This is not to say you didn’t come from a loving family. But somewhere down the line, as children, we can buy into a story (a limiting belief) that we are not worthy of love. Perhaps the caretakers were emotionally unavailable, extremely busy juggling work and other responsibilities; maybe they divorced, or sadly one parent died; many reasons could leave a child feeling abandoned.
But there is hope. My journey through heartbreak taught me this, and I have shared my process with many clients. Our relationships are our spiritual teachers, showing us where to get to work and shining a light on what needs healing. Modalities such as somatic healing, mindfulness, meditation, kundalini yoga, inner child healing, mother and father line healing, and ancestral healing, healing our generational trauma are all powerful tools that can help us. Healing is a process that differs for everyone; what modality helps one person process emotions and heal will be different for another.
But even if it feels like a mountain to climb, you can break this, and the co-dependency spell that have you stuck in this cycle. By getting to the root of why you have been attracting the same person only in a different costume over and over. By learning to listen and trust your intuition, you know that small inner voice that begins nudging you until these turn into shouts, alerting you to the RED flags, the ones you try not to see as you don’t want to believe that this person is not right for you. You will start to feel more confident to make empowered decisions and changes for yourself.
By learning how to create strong boundaries, you can show others how you want to be treated and loved. Most importantly, by turning inwards and starting to give to yourself everything you feel you have (are) lacking in a relationship. Walking away is never easy but often necessary; being true to yourself is the door to deep transformation.
I have developed an on-demand course that supports you on the path to healing with a roadmap to breaking free from heartbreak and toxic relationships. Drawing from my own experiences and those of my clients, I guide you through healing the mother and father wounds, the abandonment wound, and breaking the co-dependency spell. To discover the gems that are part of the fabric leading you to your Dharma.
It can be difficult to see the purpose behind our pain. Lessons like these often show us where to learn to love ourselves more. Have more compassion and understanding, and forgiveness for ourselves. Nurturing ourselves and giving ourselves what we have been lacking in relationships. It all starts with us. Journaling our experiences and reflecting on our many lessons helps us understand how these experiences shape our path towards our Dharma. Our purpose for being here. Someone who has experienced heartbreak and toxic relationships may discover their purpose in life is to help others heal from similar experiences, as they can empathise, relate and have compassion for someone going through this.
Your dream life lives on the other side of your fears. So, give yourself permission, listen to your intuition, begin this journey towards healing, and embrace the sovereign woman you were always meant to be; join us in the program, Coming Home ‒ From Wounds to Wisdom.
A deep dive into healing, transforming and creating a new life for yourself, which includes workshops, meditations, soul journeys, and journals, to support you on your healing journey. The link for this is here.
Sarah Dyer, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
Sarah is a Spiritual Mentor, Women’s Empowerment Coach, Intuitive, Kundalini Yoga & Meditation Teacher & Energy Medicine Practitioner. A childhood accident leaving her with the effects of a stroke, changed her life. Experiencing an awakening at 17 she dove into all things healing. As a child very connected to Spirit, alongside her more formal education a BA (Hons) in Communications and then Journalism, she dove into Energy Medicine, Tantra, Spiritual Psychology and trained in Holistic Therapy, various healing modalities, Coaching, Kundalini Yoga & Meditation. Alongside some of the best teachers in the world. Today she’s helping women all over the world go through deep transformation, to heal from trauma, connect with a strong sense of self, their sacred feminine energy & intuition.
