Javaria Malik a licensed, Dubai Based Conscious Healer, Trauma Recovery & Mindset Coach. She is also an advocate to Chronic Life-Threatening Progressive Illnesses. She is an award winner of The Best Life Coach Dubai. Born With progressive neuro muscular life threatening condition Spinal Muscular Atrophy & living alone independently. She has faced a lot of rejections and challenges in her personal & professional life. With this Progressive condition with 24-hours stiffness, decreased range of motion and other physical limitations, she has managed to live well & help others in different challenges and sufferings in life. Her mission is to let people know and see your healing is within you.
Javaria Malik, Life Coach
Introduce yourself! Can you tell us about your background and what inspired you to start your own business in the coaching and consulting industry?
I’m Javaria Malik a licensed, Dubai Based Conscious Healer, Trauma Recovery & Mindset Coach. She is also an advocate of Chronic Life-Threatening Progressive Illnesses. She is an award winner of The Best Life Coach Dubai.
I have Spinal Muscular Atrophy. Like everyone else my life is also filled with a lot of challenges, unfortunately with this condition I have to say goodbye to a lot of stuff including my personal & professional life & when someone says they’ve Spinal Muscular Atrophy It’s a world full of loss for them. In my case it is a sort of “INVISIBLE CONDITION” & people prefer seeing sickness on the face. Yes, Spinal Muscular Atrophy does shake things up. By now “Physical Exercise” is a medical concept that is catching on.
For those who don’t know, it’s a genetic progressive neuromuscular condition that robs the physical strength of a person. Everyday things are challenging for me – things like getting up from the bed, from the floor, changing sides, putting the phone on charging, brushing my teeth, climbing stairs, typing, and even taking a shower. In short, doing daily yet essential tasks are challenging for me to do.
This condition is caused by a loss of nerve cells that control muscle movement and makes regular activities a challenge.
Despite this medical condition I am living in Dubai far from her family for 7-8 years independently. Living alone isn’t for everyone. Trying to live a normal life with this kind of medical illness is very challenging & frustrating.
Life is full of challenges as new adventures unfold; life doesn’t just happen to you. It’s all about choices and how you respond to every situation.
Self-management is the key role. So, I decided to let go of what I cannot control, let’s focus on what I can do and start being the best version of myself. I learnt to appreciate & celebrate little things.
How do you approach working with clients and what sets your coaching and consulting services apart from others in the industry?
My Coaching is all about healing traumas, illnesses and transforming Souls.
I use powerful techniques to overcome resistance, doubt, and self-limiting belief.
I understand what it is like to feel exhausted, depleted and in pain every day because of heartbreak, manipulation, harassment, getting triggered, or your illness. I help my clients to create the
“UNSHAKEABLE LUXURIOUS ROCK-SOLID MINDSET” which I say. Everyone wants to have a rock-solid mindset but hardly people go through this process.
I believe that you have the power within you to finally feel in control of your life, no matter what challenges you’re going through. Once you’ve mastered the survival mode, now it’s time to thrive. I know that no two people are the same. Different triggers, different conditions, different stages, different troubles we face. It is very important to make sure we have time for ourselves.
I work together with my clients focusing on their health, and their life. With me in their corner, they will take actions so living well emotionally, mentally, physically, spiritually becomes their reality.
Can you share a success story from one of your clients and how your coaching or consulting services helped them achieve their goals?
It’s true lack of self-love, trauma, illness or any other suffering can cause a variety of physical and mental health-related reactions. Everyone’s reactions towards their suffering are unique & present in different ways.
One of my clients had a sleep walking habit and was stuck in her life. She had been operating in many self-defeating modes of thought and behavior. She was longing for change but was paralyzed by fear, self-imposed limitations, and self-created thoughts.
The best thing to deal with someone is to make sure they're safe in their “HEAD”. Sleepwalking is linked to anxiety, depression, fear, insecurities and other mental health conditions.
Through my unique, customized Conscious Techniques & approach, she not only started recognizing her blockages, limitations, her fears but to accept and move beyond them. She had several therapists and coaches in the past who had good intentions, but she lacked understanding of them. I kept on challenging her to see her true authentic self and confront her victim-hood mentality and gave her the tools to process her life experiences and find her way out of that darkness. In Our 12 Coaching Sessions she was regularly applying the methods to which I introduced her, she was continuously improving herself and kept expanding into the light of self-discovery and self-acceptance until now. Her outlook on life was and now is way much healthier, and she is now living the life she deserves.
What are some of the biggest challenges that individuals or businesses face in terms of personal or professional development, and how do you help them overcome these challenges?
I realize it is scary for individuals to go to a professional. Many people feel it is a failure to go to coaches, healers, or therapists and invest in themselves. “We should be able to do it on our own without their support.
But that’s not the right path. You will spend ages and ages to be on that track but with the help of the professionals you will be exactly on the right path. The path will be challenging, it’s not a smooth ride but it is going to be worth it. What I have seen in my career & coaching clients and have experience, people want change, they want to adapt the rock-solid mindset but then they are not ready to see their failures, their sufferings as an opportunity towards learning & growth. I have never seen people celebrating their failures, why not? What’s wrong with it? There is no right and wrong when it comes to failures or mistakes, there’s always a lesson.
Many people are afraid of changing their routines, they are focused on the future & what outcome they will get either it’s their personal or professional life. Letting go of our current state is one the most challenging aspects of any change. Changing is challenging to the brain because it represents uncertainty and uncertainty is threatening and painful for a brain that wants to keep us safe and alive. It also depends on person to person, adapting to change for people with neuro medical conditions or have had traumas is very challenging.
I give my clients time. Let them talk at their own pace. It’s very important not to pressure or rush them. It is very important to find out as much information about what is distressing them. Provide them with my practical tools to help them heal, clear emotional & energetic blocks so they can adapt to the luxurious mindset and live the life they deserve & desire.
How do you continue to grow and develop your own skills and knowledge in the coaching and consulting industry, and what new offerings or services do you have planned for the future?
My experiences are the best teacher & I always invest in my well-being to be the better & better version of myself so I can help as many people as I can.
I believe If you want to give yourself a gift, then invest your time & energy in your well-being.
Who inspires you to be the best that you can be?
When it comes to inspiration, I’m my own inspiration. It isn’t easy to live independently with Spinal Muscular Atrophy.
Today this condition has helped me to have a positive attitude towards life. No-doubt my life was and is challenging but I’ve learned to adapt and make my quality of life the best it can be. I have learned to defy limits.
I believe that happiness is possible in a broken body. Spinal muscular atrophy May have weakened my muscles but can never take away the spirit in me.
I love my work. It’s been a winding path to get here. I was once asked if I had a Life Coach when I reached my big crossroads. I didn’t and I realized that I navigated my path without a road map. I wouldn’t change that for anything as it has meant that I can relate to my clients in a much deeper way and my own search for answers and guidance has given me something important to share.
I believed that the most amazing thing my condition has done for me has shown me where my passion lies.
Accepting my battle with SMA was not easy as it is not easy to fully accept your medical condition, which is progressive, sharing it is even harder. Letting it go took time. Choosing to be courageous and using my experience with depression, anxiety, panic attacks, heartache etc. to help other people was the best decision I have ever made.
Tell us about your greatest career achievement so far.
After looking at life in a very different perspective, achievements to me are based-on courage, strength, belief, and struggle. I grew up with this condition and the challenges I faced as a child. I believe in being grateful for all I have, as nothing lasts forever, and to make the most out of everything. To let it resonate with the rest of the world, so they remember when you’re gone. I believe it is an achievement to live independently with this kind of illness when doctors told me you’ll be wheelchair bound, I never listened to them and will never ever believe them. I am in the process of healing my own illness, it might sound cliché, but it is what I believe. It is an achievement for me to pursue my career and continue living independently and help individuals with different challenges and struggles in life.
Tell us about a pivotal moment in your life that brought you to where you are today.
I was very ungrateful, who always used to complain, blame her parents for my medical condition.
One time, In Dubai all alone as I was coming out of the shower I slipped and my upper body was in the tub and the lower part was down my knees bashing on to the floor. My hand muscles did not have the strength to pull myself up from the tub’s slippery surface. The warm water from the shower kept lashing my face as I kept wondering how I would ever get out of it. What if no one ever knew I had fallen? My heart was racing, I nearly panicked and thought it was over. Then I remembered how my father always told me to trust GOD. I took a deep breath, calmed myself down and started looking around. Close to my left hand was a towel. I pulled it down. The rough surface of the towel gave my hand the needed friction to lift my upper body. I must have spent about 30 minutes in there before I could muster the energy to crawl out.
And then I broke down. I cried in the darkness of the room, wondering why my strength had left me; screaming to GOD “Why me?”
That day I learned to be grateful in whatever life Is throwing at you and remembered that I must have a presence of mind to get myself out of there or any challenge that comes in life.
There are many challenges which I face in my life, but I have a firm belief that there is always good for me & I’m fortunate.
With many rejections in my personal & professional life, I still see life as an amazing experience for me. There’s no one to tell me who I am, because even If I get another life, I will ask God to give me this medical condition, because this has shown me the real faces of the world. Which I am grateful for.
Life is beautiful, there’s always glory in suffering.
