Written by Mariame Cisse, Self Care Empowerment Coach
Mariame is a leader in empowering mothers through empathy, connection, and support. Drawing from her own childhood experiences of separation from her mother, which led to emotional attachment challenges, as well as her journey as a solo parent to three children over a decade ago, Mariame developed transformative strategies that significantly improved her well-being and emotional resilience.
I remember watching my children leave for school, wondering how I was going to make it through the next day while five months pregnant. How could I think about building a business when I didn’t even have a home? But deep down, I knew I had no choice. I had to be there for my children.
When we arrived at our temporary accommodation, I was cold, exhausted, and overwhelmed. I suffer from Raynaud’s syndrome and anemia, making the freezing January weather even more unbearable. The place was far from livable the restroom was right behind the kitchen, the door facing the fridge, and there was no electricity. To make things worse, I had two children under five, and I could only think about how I would protect them.
At that moment, it would have been easy to let fear paralyze me. As a mother, it was heartbreaking to watch my children endure such harsh conditions. The weight of being homeless, pregnant, and responsible for five children could have easily broken me.
But I couldn’t let fear consume me. I had to push through because my children were depending on me. They were my “why.” In those moments of deep struggle, darkness, I focused on creating a better future for them. This adversity gave me a sense of purpose I might not have found otherwise.
Instead of giving in to despair, I decided to use every ounce of my strength. I realized that if I broke down, my children would face the consequences. I couldn’t afford to let them see me give up. Even if it meant taking just one small step at a time, I had to keep moving forward.
The struggle fueled me. It forced me to dig deep and tap into strengths I didn’t know I had. Resilience didn’t mean the absence of fear, it meant refusing to let fear define my story. I stopped focusing on what I couldn’t control and put all my energy into what I could my determination to be there for my children and build something that could lift us out of this situation.
Each day was a battle, but with every small victory, I reminded myself that I was capable of more than I realized. If I could endure those freezing conditions, I could find a way to thrive. And that’s exactly what I did. My resilience, fueled by my love for my children, kept me going—one day at a time.
Building a online business amid chaos
Starting an online business while navigating homelessness was no easy feat, but it was possible. Here are the key steps I took:
Mindset shift: I adopted the belief, “No home, no workspace, no problem.” I was willing to use libraries, coffee shops, or any space with internet access.
Leveraging free resources: I relied heavily on free online content, podcasts, motivational videos, and articles—to develop essential business skills.
Strategic investing: I used my welfare fund for affordable courses and coaching that offered real value, ensuring every penny was spent wisely.
Building a network: I connected with other entrepreneurs for support and collaboration, reducing isolation. Asking for help was crucial, and I learned that people often want to help but may not know how unless you ask.
Establishing a routine: I created a daily routine to maintain focus and productivity.
Embracing imperfection: I accepted my unconventional workspace and prioritized progress over perfection. Celebrating small milestones kept me motivated.
Cultivating resilience: I saw challenges as opportunities for growth and stayed committed through every setback.
By prioritizing self-care through mindfulness and meditation, I enhanced my time management and maintained my energy. Setting specific goals kept me focused, and I built confidence knowing I was on the path to success.
What motivates me?
My children. My parents, whom I dream of retiring. My brother. And my loving, supportive husband.
Every sleepless night spent thinking about these dreams fuels my determination. I watch successful people on TV, and I realized they all have one thing in common, they stay committed, focused, and disciplined. As long as I stay in the game and never quit, I know I can succeed.
The emotional journey: Overcoming guilt and self-doubt
Building a business while raising children is an emotional rollercoaster. I experienced intense mom guilt, self-doubt, and fear of failure. During difficult moments, like when my daughter daily 40-minute commute turned into four hours, I would watch my children through the window, overwhelmed by the choices I had made. I missed holidays and precious time with family.
But alongside that guilt was a hunger to rise above our reality. I knew I was doing this for them to create a better future. That realization helped me navigate those intense emotions.
Breakthrough moment
The day I realized that success isn’t reserved for a specific group of people was the day everything changed for me. I used to believe that people like me couldn’t succeed, but once I had clarity, I knew I would not only survive but thrive. My children began excelling academically, and I knew I was on the right path.
The power of community and asking for help
Connecting with people who understand your struggles is crucial for your mental and emotional well-being. One of the most important lessons I’ve learned is that asking for help isn’t a sign of weakness—it’s a sign of strength. Sometimes, the people in your life may want to help but don’t know how. Approach those you trust and let them know how they can support you, whether it’s with childcare, errands, or simply listening.
Encouragement for other moms
To all the incredible moms feeling overwhelmed, remember: your current situation does not define your future. Even when things seem impossible, know that small, consistent steps can lead to extraordinary change. Embrace patience and trust the process. True growth takes time and perseverance.
Believe in yourself and your ability to rise above challenges and adversities. Surround yourself with positivity and seek support when needed. You have the power within you to create a brighter future for yourself and your children to thrive, keep pushing forward!
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Mariame Cisse, Self Care Empowerment Coach
Now a mother of six, Mariame has dedicated her life to helping overwhelmed moms, especially those raising children with special needs, unlock their full potential. She is the founder and CEO of Thrive Hub, a company focused on elevating mothers’ lives through holistic support and coaching. Mentored by a top Cambridge University lecturer in coaching and mentoring, Mariame brings deep knowledge and compassion to her mission.
Her mission is clear: “Mom first, always.”
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