Written by: Lee-Anne Mendel, Executive Contributor
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It’s a new year, new beginnings and a new fresh start. Wiping the slate clean from what’s past, breaking the chains of everything holding you back and getting crystal clear on what you want and don’t want.
My word for 2022 is Freedom.
Freedom can mean a whole lot of different things for many but for me this is a personal goal that completely embodies who I am. A being that is Aware. Aware enough to know that my natural state is one of pure love, joy, peace and happiness. The transformation on myself over the past 6 years is epic and I am not going to lie when I say the year just gone was one of the hardest seasons of my life. It brought many surprises, the biggest was my own awakening.
So, this is what I have discovered from my own perspective and experience.
In order to achieve all the things we want we need to go thru the pain and suffering of letting go of all the things we don’t want that do not serve us to get there. It's not so much about the destination but the journey along the way. That’s where the magic is.
In saying this, what does wealth mean to you?
On the outset you may think financial wealth.
On the flip side it could mean many things.
Health is wealth, so is living a fulfilled life of joy, love, peace and happiness. Having abundance of love, spirituality, beautiful friendships and fulfilling happy relationships.
Freedom comes at a price. To get there takes time, effort, courage and resilience. It’s not for the faint-hearted and many who have achieved this ultimate sense of bliss will tell you that the road to get there brought about not only tears, heartache, loss, grief, pain and facing a lot of ugly and ongoing healing but also rewarded them with choices, love and acceptance of themselves, others and finding their purpose.
I believe to make a difference and contribute in a significant way is one of the best examples of freedom. This is wealth. When you are vibrating at the highest version of yourself so that your energy sparks light and love in others.
Freedom is choosing to be more light-hearted. Free-spirited. To not take everything so seriously or personally. A lightness of being. To bring more joy into every situation, connection and relationships.
So, I made a decision at the start of this New Year to be “carefree” which means to care less. I started every day to train my unconscious mind that caring less was a way to set my soul free. Giving myself permission to put little or no energy into things that don’t fill me up or serve me or what people say about me. Their opinions are just that. I understood that my true essence is one of love so if I am not receiving love then I do not have to accept those words or actions. Being a people pleaser type of personality has made this challenge not as easy as it sounds. Finally, I knew that giving this behaviour style up was the only way moving forward.
Don’t get me wrong, I care. I care a lot. I care about my health, looking after my mindset and body, my family, friends, my business and all the good things that truly serve me. I also care about my connection to the Divine, kindness and showing compassion, giving back and inspiring others. However, I care less about jealousy, comparison, fake, inauthenticity and drama.
Here’s the thing, if what someone says triggers you well that’s then your opportunity to heal the emotion on a deeper level, if you don’t that trigger will come back again and again until the lesson is learnt. This will keep you where you are; the opposite of freedom – stuck. I recently qualified as an NLP Practitioner and this has helped me and many of my clients achieve this sense of freedom. I love this technique of resources that I use now to unpack years of trauma be that in the present or past life. We are all conditioned from our past experiences and change can come about with a willingness to open our hearts more and allow the healing, to face our hidden secrets, to stop hiding and do things we fear most.
Transformation doesn’t come free. However, you will be free and wealthier in all areas of your life once you climb that mountain and let go of the demons. You are not your mind. You are not your body. So ultimately your awareness and changing the stories you tell yourself every single day will reflect what your future holds. This may sound really woo woo to some of you but science has now backed it up. We are mind, heart, gut connected.
Here are my BEST 22 lessons for achieving Freedom to Wealth in all areas of your life:
Accepting the things you can’t change
Letting go of the past; people, events, circumstances that no longer serve you
You always have a choice
Allowing yourself to love again
Doing things for you, to look after yourself first
Saying no and knowing that’s ok
Speaking freely without concern about what others will say or think
Being independent. It’s your life so you decide what it looks like, nobody else
Set boundaries
Protect your energy
Responding with love even when it hurts
Not allowing others limiting beliefs to stop you in your tracks
Holding onto your dreams and having a massive vision even if it sounds impossible or ridiculous
Trust your partner and others. If you don’t it will eat away at you like poison.
Respond not react, take a breath, there is always a gap between what you hear and what you say.
To be at peace with yourself means to put an end to the battle in your mind and heart
Appreciating the little things
Let go of jealousy
You set the pace
Being in flow which means you are aware, everything is happening for you
Not controlling others, situations or relationships
Loving yourself more
I certainly now know from my own experience that every day it’s one step closer to this dream of complete and utter freedom. It’s my ongoing daily commitment to heal, grow, learn and be open to the flow of this rollercoaster called life, this is the toughest battle. When we taste the sweetness of freedom, with a shower of gratitude in our hearts for everything and everyone then we are on the path to least resistance and ultimate joy and peace.
My wish for you is that you find the freedom in your life that you seek. The secret is that it already exists, it just up to you to go grab it. Freedom with yourself. Freedom of your mind. Freedom of your spirit and Freedom in your relationships. This is wealth. You can’t control others, only your own thoughts and actions and while understanding sometimes is difficult it’s trusting you are exactly where you are meant to be in the present.
Like a bird, set yourself free. The wind is beneath your wings and you will not fall. Fly. There is no limit.
I’d love to connect with you to hear your freedom story.
Feel free to contact me at lee-anne@divinedailycoaching.com
If you are open and ready to make a change, I would love to connect with you.
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Lee-Anne Mendel, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine Lee-Anne Mendel is a Self Love Coach, NLP Practitioner, Professional Makeup Artist and Health and Wellness Advocate for vegan, toxic-free, and cruelty-free skincare, beauty, and nutritional supplements. Lee-Anne’s coaching approach is a holistic one as she believes once you have your mind, body, and soul all working in harmony, that’s when you can become the best version of yourself and live a fulfilled life aligned and on purpose. She is passionate about supporting women to awaken their Divine Inner Goddess, to tap into their own inner beauty and the divine feminine, discover their true authentic self and ignite the spark and light within so they can glow bright, look and feel their best from the inside and out and be confident and comfortable in their own skin. With the programs she offers, her clients are empowered to heal at a soul level their self limiting beliefs and emotions with practical tools and resources to bring back the joy, adventure, excitement fun into their lives. Lee-Anne graduated from the University of Cape Town with a Degree in both Industrial Psychology and Economics and spent 15 years working in IT Distribution and Corporate. She emigrated to Sydney, Australia, in 2000, where she now resides with her family. In 2020 she travelled to India on a spiritual retreat and studied a Practitioner course in Love Soul Healing. In 2021 she completed a Certification in NLP Practitioner & Matrix Therapies ® and launched her self love coaching business Divine Daily Coaching. Lee-Anne uses her own wisdom, healing experiences, and self-love journey of Divine Inner and Outer Transformation to support her clients through both 1:1 coaching and groups. Contribution is big on her heart as she spends time sharing her skills and passion with others and raising money for charity.
