Written by: Dr. Robert Ciprian, Executive Contributor
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Relationships are a magnified opportunity for our self-discovery and healing. It doesn’t matter if the relationships are family, romantic, business, or friendships, they are all going to cause heightened feelings for better or for worse.
Traumas from not-so-pleasant relationship interactions can hold us back from our goals, love, and fulfillment. Just like a scar on your body can cause decreased mobility, and pain, and not look so pretty either, relationship scars can cause major problems in life. It is our choice to hold on to these feelings to get a juice of some sort of satisfaction, or to let them go. High-quality relationships are very important and they should be what we strive for. But sometimes problems still arise. Luckily there is a miracle cure for these relationship scars, for those who are ready to allow life to flow again. Allow me to give a personal example.
Emotional Pain creates obstacles in life
Years ago I invited a colleague to my city to teach a healing modality to my students. I encouraged an ex-girlfriend, whom I was recently talking to again after we did some healing together, to take the class. I told the colleague that she was my ex and informed him of our story. I wanted him to take care of her in class. Well, on the first day of the class, he took care of her. He went after her romantically and they started dating long-distance. I was furious for several reasons and the anger impacted my personal and business life. My business was suffering because of my distraction but also my dating life was like a desert over these months. I was struggling to meet anyone else, my romantic life was nonexistent. Of course, this was all blamed on “them,” and I was the victim. I felt blocked on many levels.
One day I was reflecting on the pain I was putting myself through. I remembered a quote that said something similar: "holding on to anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die”. I realized how my resentment was making me unhappy daily, deteriorating my business, and my love life. I sat down one weekend afternoon and got into a very delicious meditation. When I was feeling in a very good place I visualized the coupe in front of me. From my heart, I sent them forgiveness and blessings as genuinely as I could. I had the intent to break free of this self-imposed curse and I was ready to do the work. I had to forgive them. I noticed something shift in a very big way while in this process. And after the mediation, I felt very good, like my heart was open and I was happy. The shift in my feelings and energy made it obvious that I was successful, at least in a subjective way. Within an hour I got a text from a beautiful young woman who worked at the hair salon I went to. I was very attracted to her and had been trying to talk to her for quite some time but gave up. We had a short interaction texting and I invited her to meet me for a show at a local art gallery that evening. She met me and we had a wonderful, fun, and romantic evening! I could not believe it was happening! This was not the only good news, by the beginning of the week, my business schedule started to fill up again too. It was miraculous!
Here is what was going on
When your mind has a constant set of thoughts combined with feelings, it will change how you feel and affect the energy you put into the world. The law of attraction will respond to these thoughts and feelings and you will magnetize what is on a similar frequency as you have in mind. Strong emotions will magnify what we are putting out into the universe and then what we magnetize back to us through the “law of attraction" will be greater. Forgiveness exercise steps. (Inspired by John RandolphPrice)
1. Picture the person, entity, or group in front of you in your mind’s eye with your imagination. 2. While observing them with your senses, say to them, “I forgive you totally and completely. I hold no unforgiveness back. Now I am free and you are free.” 3. Notice the changes in the visualization that you have of them with your imagination, notice the shift in any of your senses you may have noticed. Witnessing the visualization and feelings change is important for the energy shift. A step beyond forgiveness is to give the person a blessing also. Blessings can be beneficial not only in healing your emotions but also in protecting yourself against others energetically. It creates an offensive energy of good intent that can diffuse a situation. Offering a blessing exercise steps. (Inspired by Gregg Braden)
1. Picture the person, entity, or group in front of you in your mind’s eye with your imagination. 2. While observing them with your senses, say to them, “I bless you”, and notice any changes that have happened with your image of them or shift in your senses of them. 3. Then extend a blessing to yourself, “I bless me”, and notice any changes that have happened to your senses of you. 4. Then visualize a ring of people around you and the person you have in mind who are people you both know or may be witnesses to both of you in the situation that happened between you two. Say to the group of observers, “I bless all who are witness to us”, and notice any changes that have happened with your image of them or shift in your senses of them. Witnessing the visualization and feelings change is important for the energy shift. Both of these exercises use your imagination which is part of your intuition, this is very important in a “Letting Go” process that I frequently talk about with my clients. The shifts you witness in your imagination are reflective of a real energy shift. Witnessing the change and feeling a difference in the vibe are good indicators that you have made a change. Now notice how you feel about the situation that formally was not going well.
Some of us are not ready to forgive but yet we want to move forward
Do you feel like there is a situation you cannot forgive? I want to invite you to consider how this unforgiveness is holding your life back emotionally, physically, and spiritually and ask yourself if it is worth it. Your bad feelings toward someone else are most likely not going to make a shift for the better in your situation. And if revenge is what you are after, what better revenge is there than being happy and having a good life?
These exercises are great for long-standing problems and those that may have just happened in your life. It is better to process fresh issues with forgiveness and blessings so that they don’t build up and start to wreak havoc in your life.
In a holistic view of health, there are many other facets of well-being that have an impact on your behavioral health. Happiness is a dynamic thing. If we take care of the necessities, we will have more resilience to the stress of life. If you would like to learn more, feel free to opt into my email list to get a free video on my top five keys to well-being.
Dr. Robert Ciprian, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
Dr. Robert Ciprian grew up in a challenging childhood in Queens, NY. Through his transformational journey of healing and wellbeing, he became a doctor of chiropractic & holistic medicine, teacher, author, and executive coach. He has studied various energetic and spiritual healing methods over the past 25 years. Dr. Ciprian has taught across the country to healthcare professionals of multiple disciplines as well as the general public.
