Written by Irina Ciureanu, Psychologist and Psychotherapist
Irina Ciureanu is a dedicated psychologist and psychotherapist. With a previous background in business psychology, she now focuses on helping clients overcome trauma, anxiety, and depression through the AEDP model. This evidence-based approach combines mind-body techniques and neuroscience to provide effective and lasting healing.
Trauma isn’t just something that exists in the past; it often lingers in ways that subtly shape how we move through the world, including our professional lives. If you’ve experienced complex trauma, it might be influencing your work life more than you realize. The tension before a performance review, the exhaustion that won’t go away, and the way minor feedback feels like a personal attack, these can all be echoes of unresolved emotional wounds.
The good news? Awareness is power. By recognizing how trauma affects your work habits and emotional responses, you can take meaningful steps toward a healthier, more fulfilling career.
How complex trauma might be showing up in your work life
1. The struggle with authority and boundaries
Does feedback feel like criticism, even when it’s constructive? Do neutral comments from managers make you anxious or defensive? If setting boundaries at work feels impossible, you might find yourself overcommitting just to keep the peace, only to end up overwhelmed and frustrated.
Complex trauma often stems from environments where authority figures were unpredictable or controlling. As a result, interactions with supervisors can feel like walking a tightrope, triggering feelings of fear or powerlessness. This can make it challenging to assert yourself, leading to burnout and resentment.
2. The perfectionism trap
Do you work late into the night, double-checking every detail? Do you feel like you have to prove yourself constantly, as if any mistake could shatter your credibility? Perfectionism might look like ambition, but when it’s rooted in trauma, it’s often a survival strategy.
If you grew up in an environment where love or security was conditional, you might have learned that being “perfect” was the only way to stay safe. In the workplace, this translates to overworking, chronic stress, and a never-ending quest for external validation, one that never quite satisfies.
3. Resistance to change and fear of the unknown
Does the thought of shifting team dynamics, new leadership, or unexpected projects make you uneasy? Do you find yourself clinging to routine, avoiding risks, or resisting opportunities for growth?
Complex trauma can heighten our need for control. When your past was unpredictable, stability became a form of safety. While consistency can be grounding, an extreme fear of change can keep you stuck in unfulfilling jobs or make you reluctant to take professional risks. Learning to tolerate uncertainty is key to breaking free from these patterns.
4. Chronic stress, burnout, and physical exhaustion
Are you always tired, even after a full night’s sleep? Do you get frequent headaches, muscle tension, or digestive issues? Trauma isn’t just psychological, it’s deeply physiological, and chronic stress takes a toll on your body.
A nervous system that’s constantly in survival mode can lead to long-term burnout. If your job leaves you feeling depleted no matter how much rest you get, it may be because unprocessed trauma is keeping your body in a state of hypervigilance. Recognizing this can help you prioritize self-care and make workplace adjustments that support your well-being.
5. Sensitivity to feedback
Do performance reviews make you panic? Do small critiques feel like personal attacks? If you struggle to separate feedback from your sense of self-worth, trauma may be shaping your response.
Early experiences of harsh criticism or rejection can wire the brain to perceive feedback as a threat. Even neutral comments might feel deeply wounding, causing you to shut down, overanalyze, or avoid professional growth opportunities altogether. Developing emotional resilience in this area can transform your relationship with feedback, allowing you to grow without the weight of old wounds.
Reclaiming your work life
Your career and your life are not separate; they are deeply connected. The way you navigate your work is shaped by all of your experiences, both good and bad. If trauma has influenced your professional relationships, reclaiming healthy, supportive connections with people is essential, not just for career growth but for a fulfilling life. Healing is not just about coping with stress or setting boundaries; it’s about learning to trust, collaborate, and engage with others in ways that feel safe and meaningful.
By understanding how trauma has shaped your patterns, you give yourself the power to create a work life that is not just about survival, but about genuine connection and fulfillment.
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Irina Ciureanu, Psychologist and Psychotherapist
With empathy, curiosity, and gentleness, she supports clients on their journey of emotional healing. She helps them recalibrate their life's path, highlighting the key questions needed to uncover their answers and internal resources for improved well-being. With over 15 years of extensive training and specializations in psychology and psychotherapy, Irina understands the personal and professional challenges of the modern world. Her approach, grounded in scientific validation, emphasizes the connection between mind and body. Through integrative therapy, she aims to foster transformation and enhance psycho-emotional health.
