Written by: Alastair Duhs, Executive Contributor
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Do you have a problem with anger? You might be surprised to know that many people do. In fact, anger is one of the most common psychological problems. It can interfere with your work, damage relationships, and even lead to physical health problems.
If you're unsure whether you have an anger problem, here are five signs to look for.
1. You get angry easily over small things.
Do small things, like a traffic jam or a spilt drink, send you into an angry rage? If so, you likely have an anger problem.
While getting angry over small things may not seem like a big deal, people who get mad at small things are much more likely to react with anger in more serious situations, such as during an argument with their partner.
It is a great chance to practice your anger management tools when inconvenient things happen. The more you practice these tools in response to small things, the more prepared you'll be when more significant issues arise.
2. You bottle up your anger, and it comes out in other ways.
Is your anger simmering under the surface, just waiting for a chance to be expressed?
If so, it is vital you address any underlying issues that are contributing to your anger. These issues may include unresolved trauma, stress, relationship conflict or depression.
Bottling up your anger can cause it to be expressed in other ways, such as passive aggression or self-defeating behaviour.
Some simple ways to address underlying issues include talking with a therapist, practising mindfulness, journaling your thoughts and feelings, or engaging in physical activities that help you to release built-up stress.
3. You lash out at those closest to you.
Do you yell or be overly critical of your loved ones? If so, this signifies you may have an anger problem.
It is important to remember that your loved ones are the people you should treat the best. If you find yourself lashing out at them, getting help for your anger is vital before it damages your relationship with them, perhaps forever.
For many people, the best way to prevent their anger from spilling over with their loved ones is to enrol in an anger management course, such as my comprehensive online course, The Complete Anger Management System.
In The Complete Anger Management System, you will learn effective tools and techniques to control your anger before it hurts the ones you love.
4. You can't stay in control of your emotions.
Are you often unable to control your anger? If so, you are likely to have an anger problem.
When your emotions are out of control, it is essential to remember that there are ways to take back control. Learning breathing and relaxation exercises, taking Time-Out, setting limits on yourself, using positive self-talk, and seeking professional help can help you stay in control.
A simple statement that I frequently make to my clients is that "anger just does not work". Anger rarely gets you what you want and usually makes things worse. Remembering this simple fact is a great way to avoid letting anger get the better of you.
5. Someone has told you you have an anger issue.
Has someone close to you told you they are concerned about your anger? If so, this indicates that you may have an anger problem.
Listening to those close to you is essential, as they have insight that you do not have. Remember that it takes a lot of courage for someone to tell you they are worried about your anger. Respect and appreciate their willingness to talk to you openly and honestly about the issue.
If someone has told you they are concerned about your anger, taking action and getting help is essential. Talking to a therapist or taking an anger management course, such as The Complete Anger Management System, will help you address your anger.
These are just a few signs that you may have an anger problem.
Remember, addressing any underlying issues contributing to your anger and practising your anger management tools is essential. The more you practice these tools in response to small things, the more prepared you'll be when more significant issues arise.
By taking the steps necessary to address your anger, you can be sure it won't control or damage your life.
Good luck! If you have any questions or need more help, please feel free to reach out. I'm here to help.
For more information, please visit my website.
Alastair Duhs, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
Alastair Duhs is an anger management expert. Over the last 30 years, Alastair has taught more than 10,000 men and women how to control their anger and create calmer, happier, and more loving relationships. Alastair is the founder of The Complete Anger Management System, a life-changing anger management course that has helped thousands of people control their anger and create calmer and happier lives, often in just 21 days or less. You deserve to live a calmer, happier and more peaceful life ‒ and with Alastair's help, you can make it happen.
