Finding My Truth Beyond Dogma While Awakening and Confronting Spiritual Narcissism
- Brainz Magazine
- 8 hours ago
- 4 min read
Written by Samantha Howes, Life Coach
Samantha Howes, founder of Athalia Restoration, and I, Samantha Sphinx, help others transform their lives and homes. Her diverse experiences fuel her passion for restoring lives and creating sustainable futures for all humanity.
From the dusty streets of El Paso, Texas, where I was first introduced to the world through a Catholic lens, to my current home in San Antonio, Texas, approaching my 39th year, my spiritual journey has been anything but linear. After transitioning to Lutheranism in my early twenties, I now find myself drawn to the wisdom of Eastern philosophies, exploring the depths of Buddhism, Hinduism, and other practices. This exploration of self-discovery, however, has come with its own set of challenges. As I've embraced my spiritual awakening, a sense of isolation has crept in, with family and friends distancing themselves from my evolving beliefs. This journey has illuminated a pervasive issue: spiritual narcissism.
For years, I felt "programmed" by the rigid doctrines of my early religious teachings. It was as if my understanding of myself was confined within the walls of dogma. The act of "reprogramming" my brain, of actively seeking and embracing diverse spiritual perspectives, has been incredibly liberating. Through this process, I've discovered a strength and happiness I never knew existed. I'm sober, my health has improved dramatically, and I feel younger than my actual years. This period of isolation has paradoxically led me to find "The Power Within Myself," a strength born from self-reflection and a deeper connection to my inner being.
But this journey hasn't been without its hurdles. The distancing I've experienced highlights the shadow of spiritual narcissism. This phenomenon, often characterized by an inflated sense of spiritual superiority, manifests as the belief that one's own spiritual path is the only correct way. It's the judgment cast upon those who dare to deviate from the accepted norm.
While concrete statistical data specifically on "spiritual narcissism" is still emerging due to its nuanced nature and lack of formal diagnostic categorization, research in related fields paints a concerning picture of the potential harm. Studies on social exclusion and rejection consistently demonstrate a negative impact on mental health, leading to increased rates of depression, anxiety, and feelings of isolation. When this rejection comes from a perceived spiritual authority or community, the impact can be even more profound, striking at an individual's sense of belonging and self-worth.
Furthermore, research on the mental health consequences of religious judgment and stigma reveals significant negative outcomes. Individuals who feel judged or condemned for their beliefs (or lack thereof) report higher levels of psychological distress, anxiety, and even symptoms of PTSD (Understanding Religious Trauma and Its Impact on Mental Health). The fear of divine punishment or social ostracization within a religious community can create immense internal conflict and erode self-esteem (Healthy vs. Unhealthy Religious Guilt).
The behaviors inherent in spiritual narcissism, the lack of empathy, the sense of superiority, and the manipulative use of spiritual concepts can create deeply invalidating and damaging interpersonal dynamics. Studies on general narcissism (while distinct, it shares traits of grandiosity and lack of empathy) show correlations with difficulties in relationships and negative impacts on the mental well-being of those around the narcissist (Narcissism and mental health in relationships: Surprising results revealed in new psychology study). When this is cloaked in spiritual language, it can be particularly insidious, as the victim may question their own spiritual understanding and worthiness.
While we may not have specific numbers quantifying the direct link between spiritual narcissism and mental illness, the evidence strongly suggests that the judgmental, exclusionary, and superior attitudes characteristic of it can significantly contribute to psychological distress, exacerbate existing mental health conditions, and hinder an individual's ability to manage their well-being. Feeling constantly evaluated against a self-proclaimed 'higher' spiritual standard, especially when that standard is presented as the only path to truth, can be deeply damaging to one's sense of self and spiritual autonomy.
My vision is one of inclusivity and understanding. I believe that happiness and kindness should be the guiding principles, not rigid adherence to a single doctrine. We must respect the validity of diverse spiritual experiences and recognize the beauty and richness that comes from embracing different perspectives. By focusing on shared values like compassion, empathy, and non-harming, we can create a safer and more harmonious world for all beings and our planet. Remember, no human being stands in the place of a divine power to judge the spiritual worth of another.
Spiritual narcissism is a real and harmful phenomenon that needs to be addressed. If you're experiencing its effects or navigating your own spiritual awakening, know that you're not alone. I'm here to offer support and guidance. I'm about to launch my website and app, which will serve as a resource for coaching services and connections. Follow me on social media for more insights and support, and don't forget to like and subscribe to my YouTube channel. Together, we can move beyond dogma and embrace the infinite possibilities of spiritual growth.
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Samantha Howes, Life Coach
Samantha Howes is unapologetically candid and empowers others to transform their lives and homes to improve their overall quality of life. Her diverse background, spanning healthcare, fitness, interior design, home renovation, and DIY, fuels her passion for guiding individuals toward healthier, more fulfilling lives. She's dedicated to restoring lives and homes. Connect to learn more.
