She is a Career and Personal Development Coach with almost ten years of experience. Her expertise is in Job & workplace readiness, career planning, growth, and personal development. Her work focuses on helping individuals build their capacity for career progression, navigate job transitioning with ease and achieve personal effectiveness using results-oriented methods.
It was a cold November morning, one of those days that reminds you just how unpredictable life can be. Snow arrived early this year, something we haven’t seen in November in ages. Needless to say, I was unprepared for the weather, but I was more than ready for my day. I had planned everything to the minute: dropping my girls off at school, tackling my work responsibilities, and making a smooth journey from West Lancashire to Manchester for a packed schedule of meetings. It was perfect planning.
That was, until the snow decided to take charge. As I drove out of our estate with the girls in the back seat, our car skidded on the icy road. Before I knew it, the car bumped and spun, helpless against the slippery surface. The sound of the impact, the helplessness in the moment, it all felt like slow motion. When we finally stopped, my once "beautiful car," as my daughter liked to call it, wasn’t so beautiful anymore.
In that instant, the entire day changed. Meetings were missed, tasks delayed, and my perfect plan fell apart. But giving up wasn’t an option. Instead of dwelling on what could’ve been, I pivoted and started exploring my options, calling for assistance, rearranging my priorities, and reminding myself that plans may falter, but resilience doesn’t.
When life bumps us around
Much like my snowy November morning, life often has a way of bumping us off track. This is especially true when it comes to career goals. At the start of the year, many of us set out with perfect plans, determined to achieve specific milestones. Yet, as the months unfold, unforeseen circumstances like a career setback, a family emergency, or even self-doubt can leave us feeling like our goals are lying in the gutter, much like my car that morning.
As the end of the year approaches, it’s tempting to look back with regret at the aspirations we didn’t achieve. But just like I had to recalibrate after my accident, unmet goals don’t mean failure; they offer an opportunity to reframe, reassess, and restart.
1. Accept without judgment
It’s okay to feel disappointed about not meeting all your goals, but it’s important to separate the emotion from your identity. Just as I couldn’t control the snow that morning, you likely couldn’t control every obstacle that derailed your plans. Was it a demanding workload, unexpected personal challenges, or even procrastination? Whatever the cause, reflect with kindness, not blame.
2. Reflect and reassess
Just like I had to pause after the accident to figure out my next steps, take time to assess where you are versus where you wanted to be. Look at your goals and ask:
What progress did I make?
What stopped me?
What lessons have I learned?
This reflection is critical for understanding which goals are worth carrying forward and which ones may need to be reimagined.
3. Prioritise what’s still possible
Even in the final stretch of the year, small wins are within reach. While I couldn’t magically restore my car or undo the delay, I could focus on ensuring my girls were safe and make calls to reorganise my day. Similarly, for your career goals, ask yourself:
Can I update my resume or LinkedIn profile?
Can I complete a single module of that online course I started?
Can I network with one or two key people in my industry?
These small, intentional actions can set you up for a strong start to the new year.
4. Adapt and redefine success
The snowy morning reminded me that success isn’t always about sticking rigidly to the plan, it’s about adaptability. Maybe your original goal of securing a promotion didn’t pan out, but did you gain valuable skills this year? Did you build meaningful connections or maintain resilience through challenges? Redefine success as progress, not perfection.
5. Look ahead with intention
Just as I started making plans to repair my car and adjust my schedule, use this time to map out 2025 with greater clarity. Break big goals into smaller, actionable steps and create a realistic timeline. Consider:
What lessons from this year can inform my strategy for next year?
Which goals align most with my current priorities and capacity?
Planning intentionally doesn’t mean you’ll avoid every “snowy day” in the year ahead, but it does mean you’ll be better prepared to pivot when they come.
6. Celebrate the career journey
Finally, don’t let unmet goals overshadow your accomplishments. Much like I took pride in how I managed the situation after my accident, take pride in how you navigated this year’s challenges. Did you stay resilient? Learn something new? Make an impact, however small? Those wins matter, too.
Conclusion
The end of the year can feel like a magnifying glass on what didn’t go right. But just as I didn’t let that snowy morning define my day, you don’t have to let unmet goals define your year.
Instead, see them as stepping stones, not stumbling blocks.
Life will continue to throw us its share of unexpected snowfalls and slippery roads, but it’s our ability to adapt and move forward that truly matters. Take a deep breath, reflect on the lessons, and remember, just like I told myself that morning—you’ve got this.
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Esther Aluko, Career & Personal Development Coach
She is a Career and Personal Development Coach with almost ten years of experience. Her expertise is in Job & workplace readiness, career planning, growth, and personal development. Her work focuses on helping individuals build their capacity for career progression, navigate job transitioning with ease and achieve personal effectiveness using results-oriented methods. Her speaking engagements span the United Kingdom, Belgium, West Africa, and Ireland with corporate organizations and higher education institutions.
