Written by: Rhett Ogston, Executive Contributor
Executive Contributors at Brainz Magazine are handpicked and invited to contribute because of their knowledge and valuable insight within their area of expertise.
Embarking on the journey of personal development is a remarkable, transformative and rewarding experience, however it may not always be smooth sailing. One of the lesser-discussed aspects of this journey is the feeling of loneliness that often accompanies it. As you evolve and elevate your mindset, you may find that the people around you, who've known the old version of you, are forced to confront change. Some will adapt, while others may cut you out. It's a challenging process, but it's a necessary step towards growth and self-empowerment.
The evolution of self
Personal development is a powerful force of change. It encourages us to delve into our innermost selves, confront our insecurities, and emerge as stronger, more empowered individuals. As we learn and grow, we shed the layers of our old selves, which can be both liberating and unsettling.
The loneliness quandary
As you begin to embrace your newfound empowerment, you may notice a shifting dynamic in your relationships. The people around you may struggle to comprehend the changes you're undergoing. Sometimes this is because you are essentially removing the person they know and love. Some may not be prepared to adapt to the "new you" or may even feel threatened by your growth. This can lead to a sense of loneliness as you navigate this transition.
Changing or cutting out
People in your circle will react to your personal growth in various ways. Some may recognize your evolution and choose to adapt, becoming a supportive part of your journey. They'll celebrate your progress and grow alongside you.
However, not everyone is equipped to handle the winds of change. Some individuals may struggle to accept your transformation. They might perceive your growth as a spotlight on their own faults and stagnation, leading them to distance themselves. In some cases, they might cut you out of their lives, viewing you as "different" in a negative light.
Embracing loneliness
The loneliness that arises during your personal development journey is not a sign of regression but rather a testament to your progress. It is a temporary state, sometimes called the ‘dark night of the soul’, that indicates you are stepping into uncharted territory, and that can be a beautiful thing.
To ease this loneliness, it's essential to focus on self-compassion and patience. Understand that your journey is unique, and not everyone will be able to accompany you on it. Instead of mourning the relationships that fall away, celebrate the people and relationships that adapt and grow with you.
Attracting higher-frequency connections
As you continue to raise your frequency through personal growth, you will naturally attract individuals who resonate with your newfound energy and outlook on life. These "higher-frequency" people will form new connections with you, and together, you'll build relationships based on mutual growth, support, and understanding. Colloquially known as ‘your vibe attracts your tribe’.
The path to personal development is a journey of self-discovery, empowerment, and transformation. Loneliness may be a challenging part of this process, but it is a necessary one. It signifies your growth and your courage to embrace change, even when it's uncomfortable.
Remember that as you continue to evolve, you'll naturally gravitate towards people who are aligned with your new higher frequency. They will support you on your journey, and the sense of loneliness will gradually be replaced by a strong, uplifting community of like-minded individuals.
In the end, your journey of self-betterment is a testament to your strength and resilience. Embrace the loneliness, for it is a stepping stone on the path to personal growth and empowerment and is only temporary. The rewards are completely worth the wait.
Rhett Ogston, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
Rhett has been providing life-changing experiences for individuals all over the world for over twenty years. Some were so inspired that they nominated Rhett for Australian of the Year multiple times, first in 2015. Having years of experience in the field of healing as a doctor of Chinese medicine, life coach, remedial therapist, Reiki healer, and armed with a Science degree with honours from Melbourne University, Rhett is positioned to offer you the most relevant, up-to date, no-nonsense information to support you in your thriving process. Rhett is the founder of Qi Health Clinic Pty Ltd, and has developed various ‘innate healing systems’ under the umbrella of Rhett Ogston Applications (ROAs).
