Tarrent-Arthur Henry, known by the pen name Tarrent ‘Authur’ Henry, is a devoted husband and stepfather to two exceptional young men. The founder of 'Righteous Uplifting Nourishing International, Inc.,' a 501c3 Non-Profit Organization, he passionately leads its global mission to empower individuals to achieve their dreams.
The fight for mental wellness often unfolds silently in a world teeming with challenges, crises, and chaos. This internal battle, endured by millions, demands understanding and empathy, not judgment. Yet, society frequently chooses to cast metaphorical stones, questioning the strength and validity of those who falter under the weight of mental illness. It is time to change the narrative. Let us trade judgment for empathy and explore why standing with those in mental health crises is a collective responsibility.
The unseen struggle
Mental wellness is not a destination but a journey, a dynamic, ever-changing path influenced by life’s ups and downs. For some, this journey feels like navigating a turbulent sea in a fragile boat, where even the smallest wave can overwhelm. Crises like the loss of a loved one, job instability, or personal trauma can turn this journey into a relentless storm.
Consider how our words and actions affect those fighting these battles. It is easy to dismiss someone’s pain as a weakness or to think that they could “snap out of it.” These assumptions are not only harmful but also reinforce stigma, preventing individuals from seeking help or speaking openly about their struggles.
Casting stones vs. offering a hand
Judgment is simple. It requires little understanding and no vulnerability. It offers an immediate, false sense of superiority, a “stone” we cast to mask our discomfort with what we do not fully comprehend. On the other hand, empathy requires effort: stepping into someone’s shoes, seeing their pain, and walking alongside them.
The societal tendency to judge people grappling with mental health challenges is deeply rooted. Phrases like “They just want attention” or “They’re not trying hard enough” perpetuate harmful stereotypes and deepen isolation. Yet, when someone is navigating a crisis, the last thing they need is judgment. They need connection.
Imagine a person battling depression who is met not with compassion but with scorn for their perceived lack of motivation. Or consider someone living with anxiety, whose constant state of worry and exhaustion is dismissed as overthinking. These experiences highlight the invisible weight of societal judgment. In such moments, empathy becomes a lifeline, a reminder that they are seen, valued, and supported.
The cost of ignoring mental wellness
The stakes are high when mental wellness is misunderstood or ignored. According to the World Health Organization, depression is now a leading cause of disability worldwide, and suicide claims over 700,000 lives each year. Behind these statistics are real people, parents, siblings, and friends struggling in silence, often because the societal stigma against mental health struggles prevents open conversations.
Judgment exacerbates the issue, leaving individuals feeling unseen or ashamed of their vulnerability. This not only delays healing but creates a ripple effect, impacting families, workplaces, and communities. If we continually cast stones, we risk alienating those we love and losing the opportunity to build a culture of care.
Empathy in action: What it looks like
Empathy does not require grand gestures. Small, consistent acts of understanding can change lives. Here is how you can make a difference:
Listen without judgment: Sometimes, those battling mental health challenges just need someone to hear them. Active listening means setting aside assumptions, focusing on their words, and responding with care.
Educate yourself: Knowledge breaks down fear and ignorance. Take time to learn about mental health conditions, their symptoms, and their impacts. This understanding fosters compassion.
Avoid dismissive phrases: Phrases like “It is all in your head” or “Just be positive” dismiss the complexity of mental health challenges. Instead, validate emotions: “I am here for you” or “That sounds really hard.”
Respect boundaries: Supporting someone does not mean fixing their problems. Respect their pace and boundaries while reassuring them of your presence and encouragement.
Normalize seeking help: Encourage professional help without stigma. Therapy, counseling, or medical intervention can be critical steps toward healing.
Building a judgment-free society
Empathy starts at an individual level but extends outward, transforming families, workplaces, and communities. Imagine a world where mental wellness is embraced as a universal need, and crises are met not with shame but with support.
Workplaces can foster this culture by prioritizing mental health resources and promoting open discussions. Schools can integrate mental health education into curricula, teaching empathy alongside math and science. Faith-based communities can lead by embodying compassion over judgment.
The ripple effects of these changes could be extraordinary. Fewer people would suffer in silence. More lives could be saved. And collectively, we would begin dismantling the stigma that prevents so many from seeking care.
Empathy as a balm for crisis
Crisis often exposes our rawest vulnerabilities. Whether it is a job loss, the death of a loved one, or battling addiction, these moments strip us of pretense and remind us of our shared humanity. Offering empathy in these moments does more than help the individual in crisis; it enriches our own lives by deepening connections and strengthening communities.
When someone is in the throes of a mental health crisis, your kindness can be the difference between despair and hope. By acknowledging their pain, standing by them without judgment, and offering unwavering support, you help light a path toward healing.
Choosing empathy over judgment
Ultimately, we have a choice: to cast stones or to extend a hand. Mental wellness is a shared human struggle. When we judge, we build walls of division and isolate those who need us most. When we choose empathy, we create bridges of understanding that carry individuals through their darkest moments.
In crises, people are not looking for solutions to erase their pain instantly. They are looking for someone to say, “I see you. I believe you. I care.” That simple act of grace can break the chains of shame and help people find the courage to face their battles.
A call to action
Let us reflect: Have we judged unfairly? Dismissed someone’s struggle? Cast a metaphorical stone out of fear or misunderstanding? If so, now is the time to change. Choose empathy. Open the conversation about mental wellness in your circles. Reach out to those you know who are struggling to advocate for mental health initiatives in your community.
Mental health is not a weakness or a failure; it is part of being human. Together, by replacing judgment with compassion, we can create a world where seeking help is celebrated, not shamed; where crises are met with solidarity, not scorn; and where every shattered stone becomes the foundation for rebuilding lives.
It is time to drop the stones and pick up the tools of understanding and love. Let empathy guide us, for in doing so, we help others heal and, perhaps, begin healing ourselves.
Tarrent-Arthur Henry, Mental Wellness Specialist and Advocate
Tarrent-Arthur Henry, known by the pen name Tarrent ‘Authur’ Henry, is a devoted husband and stepfather to two exceptional young men. The founder of 'Righteous Uplifting Nourishing International, Inc.,' a 501c3 Non-Profit Organization, he passionately leads its global mission to empower individuals to achieve their dreams. He is also a best-selling author and poet. Henry serves as a Pastor, Chaplain, Mental Wellness Specialist, and advocate. And holds certifications as a Coach, Speaker, Teacher, Trainer, and Facilitator with Maxwell Leadership.
