Written by: Jesi Carroll, Executive Contributor
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If the title alone resonates with you, keep reading.
Do you ever think about what the word “lost” means?
It’s all about finding your way and getting back on the path you were supposedly off. But what if you weren’t off the path at all? What if you were exactly where you were meant to be? What if the experience of this moment (or season) where you lacked clarity and didn’t quite know where you were going was part of the journey you were always meant to be on? What if the whole purpose of the chaotic moment was so you could experience the contrast of full clarity on the other side?
What if you suddenly had permission to give yourself a break and feel like you were enough, right where you were? Wouldn’t that feel like a giant relief?
I’m here to tell you that this reality is a possible one.
As a professional Life Coach, one of the biggest patterns I see among my clients and why they feel lost is because they are in a constant state of needing to “hurry to get somewhere” and consistently tell themselves they “don’t know who they are right now” and have a nagging feeling they “aren’t where they want to be.”
As if they are lost because they are telling themselves they are.
They’re on a never-ending hunt of striving for an outcome vs. living/being in the moment. There’s no fluidity only rigidity. No enjoying the process (or understanding that they are in the process) but only a sense of never doing enough.
I know that time is our most valuable resource but if we spend it doing nothing but stressing about the next moment, then aren’t we missing the point?
This constant pressure is holding my clients back and I bet if you resonate with feeling lost, this is something holding you back too.
I want to tell you something taboo.
Being lost isn’t a “bad” thing, but instead is just data. Data that can help us tap into a more aligned and reassured life if we allow it to be seen as that. What if the sensation of “lost” was just data from your inner compass telling you it’s time to think differently? What if this feeling was an opportunity to become excited about yourself and your life in a new way?
Have you ever thought of it like that before?
It’s like when you tap into the idea that beliefs are just thoughts you’ve chosen to think over and over again but can actually change them any time you want. Simple but mind-blowing right?
When we create new associations, we create a new world for ourselves.
Moving forward, try thinking about the word “lost” in a new way. Create an empowering reality for yourself.
Stop telling yourself that you’re lost.
Instead see it as a new part of you that you haven’t experienced before. All it is, is unknown to you right now. But it’s a temporary discomfort that will dissolve with some exploration.
Next time you feel out of clarity and in search of your purpose and path, say to yourself, “Yes! This is exciting because now I get to know myself in a new way. I get to start again and renew.”
Then ask yourself, “Who do I want to now be?”
At first it will feel awkward. It will feel uncomfortable, and you may even not know what to do with all of this.
It’s okay.
Building a new relationship with ourselves and our words takes time. Normalcy doesn’t happen overnight. (And the fact that society expects it to is a conversation for a different article).
Let today be the day you allow yourself to release the fear and step into possibilities.
Remember, you’re just in a new place with yourself you’ve never been before and that only has the definition you give it the power to have.
Lost or discovery mode?
You decide.
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Jesi Carroll, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine Jesi, Certified Life Design Coach, specializes in mentoring career-driven women to find more fulfillment in their life as she guides them through the navigation of chaos on the way to purpose. Having spent over 6 years working at some of the biggest corporations in the world as a Recruiter, she is a master relationship builder and understands how to help people achieve high levels of success while maintaining integrity along the way. She's ready to combine her career success strategies with her 10+ years of psychology and personal development education to show you how to have it all! She offers 1on1 Life Coaching, Mindset and Self-Love Healing, Career Transition Guidance, and Self-Purpose Discovery. It's time to heal at the soul level and get back to who you were truly meant to be!
