Written by: Melia Diana, Executive Contributor
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Have you ever been hurt by someone you love? Married or single... I’m not sure what human on earth hasn’t been hit with the sting of rejection. Can I get an “AMEN “because truth be told, it’s painful! Even Jesus was hurt with brutal beatings, mockery and betrayal. (See Mark 14:18, 10:34, Matthew 27:26 NLT).
So, what are we to do with all those unresolved feelings and emotions that get stored in our souls? Let’s get some insight here. There is a wide variety of people and a vast plethora of personalities out there, from what God says- “we are so wonderfully complex.” (See Psalm 139:14 NLT). Yet, with all the many people roaming the earth, most are in great pain. So with that being said, in my findings, there are 3 different types of a hurting soul.
Type No. 1 Ignore the hurt.
Type No.2 Stuff the hurt.
Type No.3 Implode the hurt.
Honestly, my friends, none of these options are valid, but we still ignore, stuff, or implode our hurts subconsciously.We continue to run around with the same worn-out behavior patterns of life. These warped patterns of our own justifiable truth and misinformed worldly knowledge, inhibiting us from God’s truth. Doing the same thing over and over, but not producing different results, is called “Insanity.” Where is that really getting you? How are you truly dealing with your hurting soul?
To the single woman- Are you tired of attracting the same kind of men in your life? Do you feel unlovable and alone? Do you ask yourself, “Is there something wrong with me?” and “Are there any quality men left in the world?”
To the married woman- Are you having the same, repetitive fights with your spouse? Feeling unloved, disconnected from your husband? Do you ask yourself, “Is this as good as it gets?” Your marriage is starting to feel like you’re living with my roommate, or you feel disconnected and wonder if you married the right man?
Are you feeling stuck? Are you carrying around bitterness, angry and not able to forgive others? Holding onto our emotional baggage hurts us and has a dripping effect on other innocent people. Have you heard of the saying, “hurt people- hurt people?”
It’s so true. Not sure about you, but I was tired of the monotony of life that didn’t bear any fruit. I knew something had and the change started with me!
Ladies, I have been on both spectrums (single and married), and I can honestly tell you that I was blinded by many devious wounds that lived deep within my soul. I was trapped in my own mindset and stuck on self. I pointed the finger at others and blamed others for my problems. Why? I didn’t want to take accountability. I was scared to go that hidden place of misery. I allowed the devil to torment me for years. Are you allowing the devil to manipulate you?
To the surface, we think we are fine. Yet, you know deep down inside to the root of your core, something strange is going on. These sticky emotions make you feel uneasy and quite uncomfortable. So you mask it. Push it away. Take it out on others. Whatever… just to take the pain away! Maybe you turn to men, alcohol or drugs? We battle with our minds and pretend we are A-okay.
We continue in our singleness or marriage without a true understanding of ourselves and our pain that lies dormant for years. GOD wants more for you! The Lord took me through an inner, healing transformation journey that changed me forever! I’m here to encourage you that if God did it for me, He can do it for you, too!
So, which soul are you?
Type 1: Hurting Soul- Ignore the Hurt
Did you know that emotional scars can linger and manifest inside us when ignored? Many people walk around with unforgiveness, bitterness and resentment still pent-up inside their soul. Their still mad about an outcome of a divorce. Or still angered from unjust treatment from a boyfriend. This is a dangerous place to be. Without a healthy release of these toxic emotions- we will continue to manifest anxiety, depression, and other forms of unhealthy issues. We must not ignore what’s festering inside us. It’s damaging to our spirit.
Type 2: Hurting Soul - Stuff the Hurt
Have you ever been to the doctor and thought something was wrong? The doctor did every test possible, and still nothing came up. The doctor’s final conclusion- “It’s stress-related.” But, you are still convinced they missed something. You look for every external source to be your problem, but the problem is within yourself. We could drive ourselves crazy with our doubtful emotions! Maybe the doctor was right, and you are stressed to the maximum capacity. What do I mean by that? Stuffing unresolved feelings cause physical, internal and spiritual problems. When we hid them as if it’s no big deal, they get trapped in our souls.
Type 3: Hurting Soul-Implode the Hurt
As we suppress the hurt, we are allowing the poison to leak in our hearts. This is a sneaky way the devil will try to manipulate us. We allow build-up tension linger on for years…. until one day, the long-suffering anger comes boiling to the surface and imploding happens! Worst off, we unintentionally hurt the people we love the most. Yikes! When we don’t deal with our demons-we project outwardly. God says-“And don’t sin by letting anger control you” (Ephesians 5:26 NLT). This is not deserved.
At some point in our lives, someone betrayed your trust, lied to you, or left you broken-hearted. Infected scars need healing, not temporary Band-Aids. This is why we need to deal with our emotions properly. God gave us feelings, but He did not command us to hurt others with them. God can teach us how to deal with our emotions and unfinished issues from the past. We can’t change what happened, but we can choose how we respond. God commands us to get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words, and slander (See Ephesians 4:31). Carrying our emotional baggage is not a place the Lord wants you to be at. God wants you to drop your emotional baggage at the airport terminal- God International. Restoration is in God’s hands when we bring our hurts to His feet.
A woman of God facing her demons. She battles with forces against the spiritual dimension because she knows who she is in Christ. She rebukes the enemy in Jesus Name, “So humble yourself before God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you” (James 4:7 NLT).
We all need a godly approach to unblock all barriers hidden in our souls. The Lord blessed me visions, dreams, and whispered to me to serve all women and help break strongholds and burdens. God told me “serve all my daughters in Christ that need cleansing for their lost souls”.
So to the single woman, trying to find her godly man and prepare herself for an equally yoked marriage. To the married woman trying to keep her marriage alive and connected…let’s keep digging!
Getting to the route of the problem is key.
As God’s daughters, we need each other more than ever these days. And guess what? We can learn from each other. The Lord says, “Share each other’s burdens” (See Galatians 6:2 NLT). So why not make a support group for women? So, that’s exactly what I did. However, this was not an overnight decision. I prayed about this for a very long time and the Lord confirmed. Come join my Facebook group, my ministry to help women find healing and have healthy relationships. Investing in yourself will be the smartest decision you ever made. Blessings xo
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Melia Diana, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
Melia is an International Best-Selling Author, Certified Christian Counselor, and
Relationship & Dating Coach specializing in inner healing transformation. She has spent
over 13 years in medical & fitness field, as a Licensed Physical Therapist Assistant and
Certified ACSM Personal Trainer helping people through her passion to deliver
attainable and solid goals. But it doesn’t stop there!
Melia’s extensive certifications and background led her to utilize her faith, knowledge,
experience and personal development to brand and design her own Signature Coaching
Programs. She developed a unique methodology to help clarify the missing links and
identify core root problems hindering God’s best. With a godly approach, she helps
Christian women to break all barriers and reclaim true happiness they’ve always
desired. God’s mission for Melia, is helping lost souls find their true identity in Christ as
the Holy Spirit guides people though their inner healing transformation journey Her
empathetic approach encourages others for growth, wisdom and a stronger mindset for
a more abundant and fruitful life.
