Written by: Melissa McClain, Executive Contributor
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The dating scene can seem daunting and a lot of work, especially for a woman over 40 navigating the challenges of life post-divorce, with children in the mix. It may feel like an uphill battle, but rest assured, the quest for finding unconditional love while dating with kids after divorce is not just possible but can also lead to deep soulmate love. Imagine being with someone who really gets you and loves you for your true authentic self. Someone who has your back and has the very best intentions for you and your kids. The world is abundant with love, and you whole heartedly deserve this type of unconditional, soulmate love. This guide aims to provide a roadmap towards this enriching journey.
Does Soulmate Love Exist After Divorce?
Many women often wonder whether finding unconditional love after divorce is a possibility or just a fairy tale. The truth is, finding soulmate love is more about openness, readiness, and commitment than it is about finding one perfect individual among billions. In this vast world, there is likely not just one, but multiple potential soulmates for each person. They could be anyone with whom you share a profound connection, compatibility, and a mutual understanding of life's complexities. The only way to find your soulmate is to put yourself out there in the dating world showing up from a place a deep self-love.
The Double Role: A Single Parent and a Hopeful Heart
Post-divorce life often bestows upon you a dual role – a single parent and a smart, successful woman seeking love. Balancing these dual identities is a juggling act, but remember, it's a challenge many have navigated successfully. It's about fulfilling your role as a parent while not compromising your personal needs and desires to have a life partner.
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Strategic Dating: A Journey of Seeing, Connecting, and Committing
Conscious dating involves understanding three crucial components: seeing, connecting, and committing.
Seeing: In the post-divorce dating landscape, it's important to be open to potential partners. This doesn’t mean lowering your standards, but rather viewing potential matches with an open mind, beyond the quest for absolute perfection. It’s taking the time to get crystal clear on what type of person you want to manifest in your life. Knowing by heart what is true for you and your hell no’s. It’s about leveling up, showing up from a place of self-love and never settling for anything less.
Connecting: Connection forms the heart of any meaningful relationship. Embrace vulnerability, open yourself up to new relationships, and let go of past fears and apprehensions that might hinder a budding connection. Its about putting yourself out there and letting the world know you are open to dating, sharing your relationship desires and having fun in the process. Dating with kids after divorce is one of the biggest self-love challenges you will ever undergo. Learning that it’s not personal when relationships don’t pan out the way you thought they would is key.
Commitment: Reflect on what type of committed relationship you desire. It’s not merely confined to traditional forms of relationships. It could be any relationship structure that complements your current life situation, and works for you, your ideal partner, and your children. This could look monogamous, polyamorous or open. This could also look like a traditional marriage or long-term partnership that does not involve church and state. The relationship you desire should be communicated often as you are out there in the dating world. This helps you weed out people that do not fit what you are looking for in a soulmate.
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Carving Out Time for Love Amidst Parenting
One of the key challenges when dating with kids after divorce is time management. It may seem near impossible to carve out time for dating amidst the whirlwind of single parenthood. But remember, personal happiness is as important as fulfilling parental responsibilities. Utilize online dating during downtime and commit to 30 minutes per day at least 5 days a week. Learn the art of not spending a ton of time with the same person online and strategically move them out of the app or online dating site to an email and then a zoom call prior to meeting them in person. Also, consider hiring a babysitter for occasional nights out or offer to babysit for another parent while she goes out and vice versa so love becomes a team effort. Network and socialize when your children have group activities. You might meet a new girlfriend to go out with, a new friend or even a single parent who is also upleveling and looking for unconditional soulmate love.
Embracing Your Journey to Love
Navigating the world of dating after divorce with children may seem like uncharted territory. However, each step brings you closer to discovering what you truly want in a partner. Armed with patience, loads of self-love, and a willingness to explore this new chapter, you're well on your path to finding the soulmate love you deserve.
Your Path to Soulmate Love
Dating with children after divorce can feel overwhelming, and the desire to find a soulmate might seem like a distant dream. But remember, soulmate love isn't a fairy tale or a myth. It's a tangible reality for those who approach dating strategically, embracing openness, connection, and commitment. While the path to love post-divorce and with children may come with challenges, it's also a journey of self-discovery, personal growth, and ultimately, finding the soulmate-level love you deserve. Dating with kids after divorce might seem tough, but it can indeed be the beginning of a beautiful new chapter in your life.
You are the creator of your destiny and midlife reinvention. Conscious dating is the biggest self-love challenge you will ever undergo. When you show up from a place of deep self-love, getting crystal clear on your deepest desires and never settling for less, you are on the path to the unconditional love you deserve.
Midlife is not a time to settle. It’s a time a woman prepares to give birth to herself.
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The universe is abundant with love. Your soulmate is out there just waiting to meet you.
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Melissa McClain, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
Melissa McClain, Divorce Coach, empowers women over 40 to successfully navigate and recover from divorce, paving the way for the unconditional love they deserve.
Her proven 4-step coaching process propels women to manifest their deepest desires, igniting self-discovery, embracing the power of femininity, and creating a liberating life reinvention, setting the stage for true soulmate love.
An accredited Life, Mindset, Sex, Love, Relationship and Conscious Dating Coach, Melissa weaves her expertise like magic into every transformational journey.
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