Written by: Tanya Slater, Executive Contributor
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What would you do if someone told you tomorrow that you only had a year to live? What would you say to the people who mean the most to you? Who are the people who mean the most to you? I think our perception of time and how we take for granted how long we have to enjoy this blessed human existence of ours actually stops us from living our life to its fullest. So many of us fear death, but what if we made it our friend and we respected and loved it for giving us an opportunity to explore just how much we are capable of?
I’m sat here just now wondering why I treat my life so frivolously. So many people I love are experiencing the toughest of times right now, and for years, I’ve been the rescuer. You see, I’m an empath through and through, and I feel people’s pain—especially my loved ones. I also experience physical symptoms of pain when I see someone hurt themselves, even if it’s on TV. It’s become a part of my identity, but sadly to my own detriment.
I’ve recently chatted with some of my nearest and dearest about this and also to a lovely lady who understands a lot about our energy. What I have come to realize is that everyone is going to be ok. That they will be OK because they are being given these opportunities to discover just how strong and resilient they are. That through their own pain, they are learning the lessons they need to learn to walk their own path and to see that they are fully capable of climbing these mountains and feeling proud of the view they get to see at the top. It is not my job to solve their challenges for them or to feel their pain with them. I am here simply to walk beside them, hold them in a safe space and let them find their own solutions. This role is valuable enough, and my ability to do this is all the personal validation I need. I do not need to rescue them or fix their problems to feel worthy. We all have our own mountains to climb and our own lessons to learn. Now I can see that this revelation is one of those lessons. Not trying to rescue or fix my loved one’s problems enables me to focus on my own life and what I am supposed to be doing. I am in a place now that I know I am supposed to be living. I do wake up every morning with a heart full of gratitude for the day I have been blessed with and the air I can breathe. So why then do I not treat the time I have with the respect it deserves? For me, it all comes back to lifelong habits of being busy but lacking clarity on what is important and, therefore, what we should be giving our time to. Well, no more. I am ready to live my life as if I were going to move on to the next phase of my existence. Whatever that looks like beyond the human realm. It's time to dance like no one is watching, sing like no one is listening, love like never before, and speak my truth to everyone every single day. So why am I sharing this, and what the heck does it have to do with decluttering? Well, I remember back to when I had a house full to the brim of ‘stuff I had accumulated over the years. I remember when I felt heavy and weighed down by all that stuff. My time was not my own because having all that stuff took work. Then there was all the stuff you couldn’t see, in the loft, in cupboards and drawers, in the shed. That weighed on me, too, even though I didn’t know it at the time. And then there was all the other stuff! The memories attached to my physical stuff, the stories and limiting beliefs I had formed and collected in my head, the people I had become accustomed to giving my time to but realized on my decluttering journey that they needed clearing too. Yes, I had a lot of ‘Stuff,’ and so do a lot of other people. But, I am here to tell you that if you are feeling overwhelmed, time-poor, and unable to focus. Perhaps lacking in self-worth and self-confidence and struggling to set and uphold healthy personal boundaries. Maybe even have negative relationships in your life, and you feel like you're not achieving the things you know you are capable of, like growing a successful business and more… I have found all of these to be symptoms of having and carrying around TOO MUCH STUFF! Do you know what’s exciting about that? You are fully capable of decluttering and mindfully clearing all the excess stuff in your home and your life, and you can improve every area of your life exponentially by doing so. Your environment really is the key to your best life.
Creating a home that works for you can bring all the clarity you need to identify what is most important to you. You find the confidence to speak your truth to those around you and to make the decisions you need to make to live your best life! I’m not kidding when I say that this decluttering malarky is Magic! What would you do with all the extra time you could gain from mindfully clearing out all your excess stuff? If you need more clarity, a confidence boost, and more time to do the things you love with the people you love, then why not make a start and choose just one draw or spot in your home to sort through and declutter?
Make sure you answer these 3 important questions first.
What am I working towards?
What is the purpose of my home?
What is the purpose of this room?
When you have those answers, you will be much better equipped to make a decision about an item as to whether it stays or it goes. Does it support you or bring you happiness, or has it served its purpose and can now be set free with gratitude? Decluttering is simple when you have a framework. However, it's not always easy. This is why so many of us can't face the task alone and why I love bringing people together and guiding them every step of the way so they can all enjoy and celebrate the magic decluttering brings together. I wish you luck on your clearing adventure and am always here for you if you have anything you would like to share or ask. Big love, Tanya xx You can join my Newsletter in 5 seconds for regular ideas and inspiration all around decluttering and mindfully clearing your home and your life. It would be a joy to have you join us. Newsletter Sign Up Page
Tanya Slater, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
Bringing together a lifetime of experiences, childhood trauma, and adult pain, as well as a decade of clearing, Tanya introduces entrepreneurs to the power of decluttering so that they can enjoy success in business and quality time for themselves and their families. Working online, Tanya runs The Home Clearing Club, guiding and coaching busy business owners methodically through the rooms in their homes while leveraging the power of peer support in the group. Her proven method sees her students experiencing the concept “when you take control of your environment, and you can take control of your life” very quickly for themselves. Tanya loves witnessing people's surprise as they experience the transformational shift from such a simple act of clearing. The Girl Who Simplified mirrors Tanya’s own learning and journey of 30+ years condensed into a succinct and tried and tested formula. The Home Clearing Club has her students coming back for more and continuing their clearing and simplifying adventure in other areas of their life as members of The Curious Souls Life Clearing Club. Clarity, confidence, calm, inner peace, purpose, improved relationships, better mental and physical health, family communication, business success, life purpose, and the list of benefits are endless and joyful, and it all starts in your home and heart.
