Lorii Abela is a board-certified master NLP practitioner, success coach, soulmate expert, and professional matchmaker. She specializes in assisting successful executives who feel lonely, frustrated, and burnt out from online dating.
You’ve spent years, maybe even decades, building something incredible: the career, the reputation, the lifestyle. It’s all there. You’ve put in the work and made the sacrifices, and now you’re exactly where you always planned to be. Except, somewhere along the way, love never came through.
Maybe you were too busy. Relationships always felt like a distraction. The right person just never showed up. Whatever the reason, you’re here now, realizing that the one thing missing from your success is someone to share it with. And that thought is starting to feel more magnified than you expected.
Dating at this stage of life isn’t as simple as flipping a switch. You are set in your ways, with well-established routines, habits, and preferences. Knowing exactly how you like your space, time, and life makes it harder to figure out where love fits in. Letting someone in without feeling like you’re losing yourself becomes the real challenge.
Before diving in, consider seeking guidance from matchmaker and soulmate expert Lorii Abela, who understands the complexities of high-level dating and can help you find a suitable partner with precision and insight.
Why does dating feel so different now?
You’re not the same guy you were in your 20s or 30s. Back then, dating was a breeze, or at least, it felt that way. Maybe you weren’t thinking about long-term compatibility, or the stakes just didn’t seem as high. Now, things have changed.
Finding just anyone is no longer the goal. What matters is a real connection with someone who understands your life and doesn’t expect to become the center of it. At the same time, relationships take effort. Balancing that effort while adapting to a life of independence is a challenge most people don’t discuss.
The dating world itself also feels different. Let’s be honest: the modern scene is exhausting. Swiping, texting, and ghosting have changed the landscape. Games are uninteresting, and patience for small talk leading nowhere has run out. Wanting a real connection is the goal, but finding it now feels like an entirely new business deal where the rules aren’t quite as clear.
The biggest hurdle: Getting used to sharing control
One of the biggest reasons successful men struggle with relationships later in life is control. Years of calling the shots, setting the agenda, and making decisions have shaped your operation. In business, that’s an asset. In dating, it can become a roadblock. Relationships are built on connection, not control. Flexibility, compromise, and a willingness to share the decision-making process with someone else become necessary.
Giving up independence isn’t required. Changing everything about your life isn’t the expectation. What matters is creating space, emotionally, mentally, and physically, for someone else to be part of it. Adjusting to it will take time if that has never been achieved or if years have passed since the last attempt.
What kind of partner works for you
What is the leading mistake men make when finally deciding to prioritize love? The answer is chasing what looks good on paper instead of what feels right.
Maybe you’ve always pictured yourself with someone younger and beautiful who fits seamlessly into the world you’ve built. That may be the right person for you. Looks and chemistry only go so far, though. A lasting relationship requires a partner who understands your drive, ambition, and need for independence.
The ideal match is a woman who isn’t intimidated by success but doesn’t see you solely as a provider. A partner with her own life, ambitions, and sense of self is key. The last thing you need is to feel like the entire relationship rests on your shoulders.
How to find love without wasting time
The traditional dating scene isn’t built for men like you. Time isn’t available to sift through endless dates with people who aren’t a fit. Dealing with uncertainty, mixed signals, or wasted energy isn’t appealing.
A wise, more strategic approach is fundamental. In business, working with the right people makes all the difference. Matchmaking services exist for a reason: to connect high-caliber men with women who actually align with their lifestyle and values. Guesswork and dead ends are no longer necessary. Authentic connections with women who understand you become possible.
A life built on success comes from intention. Why should love be any different? The next step is clear: meeting the right person without frustration, wasted time, or the trial-and-error approach sounds appealing. Love isn’t just about finding someone. Building something worth keeping is what truly matters. Get expert guidance and meet the kind of women who fit your life. Schedule a consultation with soulmate expert Lorii Abela today.
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Lorii Abela, Soulmate Expert and Professional Matchmaker
Lorii Abela is a board-certified master NLP practitioner, success coach, soulmate expert, and professional matchmaker. She specializes in assisting successful executives who feel lonely, frustrated, and burnt out from online dating. Lorii's approach not only saves them time but also brings happiness by guiding them into the right mindset, resulting in meeting quality, relationship-oriented matches 93% of the time. As a five-time international bestselling author, her debut book, "Sexy Secrets to a Juicy Love Life," has garnered acclaim. Lorii is a dynamic TV host and producer of "Matchmaker Secrets," "Ready, Jetset, Go!," and "Scale Up." These shows air on CAN TV Chicago, Roku, and Firestick.
