Written by: Jeremy Stegall, Executive Contributor
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As we approach the end of this year, the journey to empower our choice does not end after just one year of dedicated focus and attention to empowering choices. Life is continuous, and so is the opportunity for our development over our lifetime. Some of us may come from healthy backgrounds with secure attachment styles, and others may come from controlling environments in which choices do not feel like our own.
Sitting down with the book, There's Nothing Wrong With You by Cheri Huber, I resonated with the quote, "you have been taught that there is something wrong with you and that you are imperfect, but there isn't, and you're not." I've been thinking about the theme of self-trust and leaning into the next level of opening up to my experience and finding completion around previous experiences that trigger me to respond with behavior that no longer serves me; areas that once supported and protected my development.
It's interesting to reflect on my experience, particular environments' impact over time, and the parts of myself that I claimed as my identity and part of who I was. What if we could recognize our patterns and intentionally choose our behavior more often? It's just the way I am, we often say.
Feelings that I'm not trusting that I know what I want and that people outside of myself know better than I do what is best for me triggers a response pattern that takes time to recognize and move past. Repeating thoughts, doubting my choices, and second-guessing what I desire is also a response to being with other humans on their journey. Plain and simple, it's time for me to take ownership of my life and what I create while I have the time and opportunity to be here.
Being in Practice
Demonstration reflects how I trust myself and develop areas around my being. What opportunities are there for you and your life at work and in the community? For me, the journey of reaching the next level of self-trust initially triggers thoughts of fear and survival. Continuing to lean into what I do want and intend to create so far continues to lead to the most incredibly fulfilling life experience.
What is it that I'm bringing to the room, and how does that impact my results? How does that reflect how I trust myself, my community, and my relationships?
The purpose of this opportunity is to demonstrate new learning and awareness around how I am in relationships and trust myself. I am demonstrating trust and showing how I give confidence in my relationships. How am I when I'm insecure and not trusting myself? Noticing how I was before and what patterns I carried from back when it wasn't the same scenario. The insecure version of myself at sixteen or twenty-something isn't me. That's not even close to me here now.
How can you demonstrate trust, and how can you develop confidence in a new relationship? How would you be if you were in integrity and trusting yourself?
A Recommendation
I recommend considering these books worth reading to support you on your journey:
We all have a creative internal dialogue that is imagining what will happen. Imagine implementing new action, starting a project you can engage with without being overwhelmed, opening up in your relationships, and deepening connections. Practice being out of the world, being present as it's connected to you now, and moving past internal dialogue.
There is nothing wrong with you, and you can trust yourself. Follow me on LinkedIn and visit my website for more info!
Jeremy Stegall, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
Jeremy Stegall has been fascinated by people and what motivates them since he was a child. His curiosity into why we do what we do lead him to Iowa State University in 2004, earning his B.A. degree in Psychology in 2008. Beginning his blog, Where the Change Happens, in 2018, Stegall’s writing provides readers in over 30 countries the tools to process questions we all have about making personal development growth a consistent habit.
Jeremy is a life coach and business success coach with Where the Change Happens Coaching, LLC. As an author, coach, and speaker, Jeremy has used his education and professional experience to bring new creative energy to the workplace, encouraging entrepreneurs on their journey to improve client relationships in their businesses. In 2020, Jeremy self-published his first book, Where the Change Happens, which has found international success.
