Written by: Grace Alfafara, Executive Contributor
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How to understand life patterns and find yourself in truth, love, and pure peace while breaking the mold of generational curses.
We are bombarded with so much information since we were born on this planet. We have been programmed to simply accept what has been portrayed for the past decades on how life should be and not question whether it works for us in our generation or the next generation as life evolves in an ever-changing world. We are sort of forced with expectations to simply just believe and live the “only way” of life in the past with a strictly traditional way of thinking, and suppressing the heart value of the essence of our souls. This kind of stem results in a lot of mental illness to sickness in our temple of bodies that builds up into stress, depression, anxiety, being overweight, alcoholism, drug addiction, suicide, and whatnot. Just look at how our world has been for decades.
Many of us have struggled in the past, while some of us still struggling in this current moment stuck in the loop of living life in repeat like 75 times, in 75 seasons or years, and expecting different results and not feeling alive. The insanity of living life with a scarcity mindset of entanglement separation notion and lack of self-truth, self-love, and self-pure peace is the very reason why people react in a destructive or unrealistic expectation of behavior that not only affects themselves but affects their loved ones and other people they interact with.
You see, deep within our hearts, we know our sense of worth, value, and strength with a healthy purpose to live by on a daily consistent basis. But we have convinced ourselves that we are not good enough because we believe a lie so many times in repeat that it becomes the “truth” in our subconscious mind.
There are ways to start breaking the generational curse and be a mold-breaker by learning how to recognize the patterns of life itself. And it starts with our very own life patterns of the type of choices we make on our daily decisions, big or small decisions, or inherited beliefs system ingrained through us that affect our decision-making in life.
I have compiled a brief way to help you create a shift in your life as I did with mine. I have enlisted the life patterns on how to start breaking the mold of destructive or dysfunctional behavior due to unmet emotional needs, financial needs, physical needs, mental needs, and so on and forth.
Breaking by unlearning the generational curses is not easy and it is going to take so much time and energy on your part to even understand to trust yourself whether you can even trust yourself to rediscover something inside of you. A very powerful version of you that you find yourself you are requiring a part of you to unleash your true highest expression of yourself. This is when you learn how to activate and cultivate your truth, love, and purity of peace deep within you.
Here are a few powerful ways to start the journey on how to move mountains and break the mold of poverty consciousness from the generational curse of lack and turn it into grace, wisdom, love, prosperity, and peace:
Be still and focus to have an awareness of who and what you stand for. When you start feeling not at peace, be aware of where it is stemming from. Then, recognize the emotions but not be controlled by emotions. Know that emotions exist, but learn how to master them by turning them around into empowering you to grow. And this can be done first by being in a state of stillness. It means pause before you react. When you choose to be in a stillness of being in the present moment not making assumptions based on past expectations, experiences, or the worry of the future “what if’s” could happen this and that, then you are teaching yourself how to respond better and activating the parasympathetic nervous system part of you, in which is the calm and peace response part of you. Then your sympathetic nervous system which is the “fight and flight” part or the “stress response” part will not be activated when you prominently focus on how to respond better when you are in a calm and peaceful state.
Recognize the patterns of the outward messages versus the inward messages. This means you got to use your inner filters of how to perceive or discern with an in-depth understanding without being biased, generalizing, or imposing your fear that could lead to poor judgment or creates more conflict. Once you also recognized your patterns that you also trust the way you perceive without being judgmental, condescending, or imposing fear or generalizing, then you can create a space for improvement for yourself and others as well, without putting others down and especially yourself. When the patterns are recognized e.g., unhealthy behavior in a relationship, learn how to ask for help from others whom you can trust without them imposing their fear on you too. Make sure the people you asked for help must be in a state of stability and have the ability to create peace and not add more damage in a wounded situation. Make sure you are recognizing your thoughts of patterns too that you are in a state of peace and not stress. Remember, reevaluate your thoughts and choices of behavior for life has patterns.
The patterns of every decision determine if it’s unhealthy or healthy. There’s a saying that “Just because it is familiar, it doesn’t mean it is healthy to go back.” Let that sink in for a bit because the brain takes at least 90 days to start believing it’s true even if it’s unhealthy for your well-being. So, be very careful in recognizing patterns of unhealthy behaviors versus healthy behaviors. One of many ways to recognize unhealthy versus healthy is that unhealthy behavior patterns keep you in bondage and there’s no inner peace. When you don’t know who you are, you will never know peace. Once you know who your highest pure self is, you will be protecting the inner peace in your heart. You no longer tolerate unhealthy behavior from unhealthy people, but you set a standard that honors and respect your inner peace.
Create a space for improvement and growth. This is when you start making important decisions on how to set healthy boundaries without losing your empathy. Read and click here on one of my articles on how to set strong healthy boundaries without losing our empathy. Because setting healthy strong boundaries are more effective than just empathy alone. Never sacrifice your healthy boundaries in the name of empathy. Empathy alone without setting healthy boundaries leads to emotionally destructive behavior or self-destructive behavior, and it enables unhealthy people to take you for granted which also leads you to behave as an ‘enabler’ to poor habits if you don’t recognize the patterns of dysfunctional destructive behavior. This is not going to be an easy task to break the mold when you are cultivating a space for improvement and growth, but it is necessary for your peace of mind and food for your soul. This is also about learning to honor and respect your sacredness of truth, love, and peace. For deep within your inner peace is where your truth resides.
When creating a space for improvement the most important thing is to know your healthy boundaries and make sure you live by its principles. Second, create a solution based on a growth mindset. This leads towards empowering to lead yourself before you lead others. Once you start creating in leading your emotions and life, you start seeing how to create a different meaning you attach to anything without being effective to the negativity that life throws at you.
These are just the fundamental basics of how to break the mold of generational curses that have been passed on through you. It is up to you to recreate your life on your terms of freedom. Freedom for everyone is different depending on where each one’s level of growth and the capacity to understand their inner world and how they react or respond to the environment of their outer world.
This also depends on one’s influence over you on how you are making decisions either based on the belief that has been told to you since childhood, the belief from any organized religious organization, the social or cultural peer pressure, or the parents’ high unrealistic expectations. You feel guilty not to make a move on your part for you to rediscover your truth and question everything that has been bombarded onto you. Remember, learn to question everything. If you don’t, you end up being an absorber instead of an observer.
Observe rather than absorbed and be consumed with hate. Never let hate or anger consume you. Always observe first before acting on what choice of behavior you want to feel. Everything is energy in motion whether you are aware of it or not. It is just the law of nature and our job is to recognize and learn the patterns of life without losing ourselves but find our true expression of whom we truly are based on our truth, love, and peace.
If you want to learn how to cultivate the inner tools how to set strong healthy boundaries without losing your empathy for your family and friends, and unlearning unhealthy patterns, I have tools for you to start your journey on how to understand and unleash the power within you when you will learn the power on the ‘psychology of belief.’ I have gone through this many times before and I have learned how to trust myself when I went through such an ordeal. I have broken free from unhealthy relationships from dysfunctional behaviors of unhealthy people that I thought I could trust, and an occult religious organization to name a few. It wasn’t easy, but I took the risk to break free from those unhealthy relationships with their unhealthy behavioral patterns that my future self will thank me for. I also took time to reevaluate and did some tremendous self-reflection on my part so I can heal my hurt into healing, my wounds into wisdom, my adversity into adventure abundance, my grief into grace and gratitude, and my loss into love.
I know that this may be something you truly desire learning how to trust yourself to unlearn and break the mold of fear, and if it is, contact me. I will be your catalyst and Coach to guide you in how to cultivate your light brighter each step of the way, and how to be at peace even in the most challenging times. You will develop a resiliency intelligence as you tap into the true power of your healthiest version of yourself once you strongly decide to make a shift move on how to break the mold by unlearning unhealthy patterns that are no longer serving you. Make an empowering decision and learn how to be responsible for the quality of your life that your future self will thank you for.
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Grace Alfafara, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
Grace Alfafara, is a mother to 4 teenagers, a Published Author, Grief Advocate, Certified Sophrologist, and a Certified Transformational Life Coach, in which she specializes in emotional and adaptability intelligence. She also develops an online empowerment Masterclass. She has lived in 5 countries and has worked as a Philanthropist for several years with her family. Her background education in Western culture on Psychology, Quantum Consciousness, and life growing up in a blend of Eastern and African cultures full of diverse life experiences have brought immense wisdom within the span of her life. A mother on a mission: empowering others to embody their true resilient essence wholeheartedly.
