Written by: Trea Tijmens, Executive Contributor
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It’s that time of the year again; Saint Valentine’s. Last year at about this time you probably had similar thoughts about how nice it would be if this were the year you finally found the love you’ve been looking for all this time. The life partner that you thought you’d be sharing everything with by this St. Valentine’s.
But if this past year you didn’t get to where you wanted then how can you make sure that this year is the year that you succeed? Unless you change something, nothing is going to change.
It’s time to sit back and ask yourself some important questions:
How long have I been single for?
What actions have I taken to actively seek out a romantic partner?
What has worked? What hasn’t worked?
What opportunities did I seek out to meet new people?
What opportunities did I create?
How open was I really to love this year?
If you’re at a loss as to how you’re still not in a committed relationship, I can help you. Many singles believe that finding the right partner is their main priority and goal, but when it comes down to it most singles have not actually done much. They have not invested the time, energy and resources needed to reach their important goal of finding the right partner.
How can you ensure that you find your partner in 2022?
Be conscious about your true efforts and make time for love and finding your person if it is what’s important to you. Did you really need to go through that report again on Friday night or could it have waited until Monday? And if you had let it wait until Monday then why didn’t you instead use that time to put yourself in a situation where you would meet new people?
If you want to achieve something you have to be the one to make it happen. You need to commit to do the work to get the results that you want. If you want to run a marathon, buying new sports clothes and signing up for a gym membership isn’t the same as slipping on your sneakers and running 5 kilometers every day for starters.
It’s no different in dating. You can download dating apps and create a profile but you still need to put in the time and energy to do this well and actually go on the dates.
You’re only as close to achieving your goal as you are committed to taking action.
By the end of my eight month group coaching and mentoring program, 100% of ladies are actively dating and over 85% end the program in committed relationships. If you commit to action now then this time next year instead of wondering when love is going to happen to you, you’ll be well on your way to planning a romantic Saint Valentine’s weekend in the mountains.
Now that you have refocused, as you start the new year, ask yourself these questions:
What is my dating goal?
What qualities must my partner have in order for me to be fulfilled and happy in a lasting relationship?
How often am I approached by men?
How often do I approach men?
What can I do to meet more men in my daily life?
Be brutally honest with yourself as you look back on the past year and as you look ahead. Use these questions to discover any gaps. What have you NOT been doing to get the results that you want? How are you going to start taking action?
In my coaching program, Find Your Success Match, we follow my holistic science-backed signature program that is based on the three pillars of BEING, FINDING and CHOOSING the right partner. We explore your past, present and future of dating and give you the tools to make this year the one that changes everything… the year you find the love of your life.
If you’ve asked yourself the above questions but still can’t quite understand why you haven’t met your match yet, then click here to receive my complimentary video “why you’re still single”.
Trea Tijmens, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
Trea Tijmens, the CEO of www.successmatch.ch is an international elite matchmaker and award-winning dating expert and coach.
Trea believes that to love and be loved is a basic human need and that people do not thrive without love.
A former head-hunter, she founded SuccessMatch in 2005. Based in Switzerland she works with a local and international clientele and prides herself on her high success rate.
Trea is passionate about helping her highly international single professional clientele transition from where they are today, to where they want to be; in a happy, fulfilling, lasting relationship with the right partner!
