Dr. Lauren, founder of Resilience Unlimited, is a seasoned educator, life coach, and entrepreneur, bringing unparalleled expertise to the organization. As a black woman with ADHD, she profoundly understands diverse challenges, covering trauma healing, education, parenting, and more.
As a woman of color, advocating for yourself is crucial, not just for professional success but also for protecting your mental health and well-being. In environments where boundaries are repeatedly violated, self-advocacy becomes a necessary act of self-care. Whether it's in the workplace or personal life, speaking up for yourself helps establish respect, maintain boundaries, and prevent emotional burnout.
Why self-advocacy matters
Mental health protection: Constant boundary violations, microaggressions, and dismissive behaviors can lead to stress and anxiety. Advocating for yourself sets the tone for how you're treated and safeguards your mental health.
Reinforcing boundaries: Marginalized women of color often face repeated boundary violations, such as being overworked or ignored. Advocacy establishes those boundaries, ensuring respect and space for growth.
Reclaiming your power: In spaces where systemic oppression thrives, self-advocacy helps reclaim the power often taken away, giving you control over your narrative and experience.
Action steps for advocating
Identify and reflect boundary violations
Recognize when and where your boundaries are being crossed. Reflect on how these moments affect your mental health and self-worth.
Action step: Keep a journal to track boundary violations and your emotional responses to them.
Set clear boundaries
Communicate your needs and expectations in both personal and professional settings.
Action step: Practice assertive language, such as "I need uninterrupted time to focus on this task" or "I can't take on more without additional compensation."
Say "no" without guilt
Learning to say no is a powerful act of self-care and necessary for maintaining boundaries.
Action step: Start by saying no to small requests and remind yourself that protecting your mental health is essential.
Build a support system
Surround yourself with people who understand and validate your experiences.
Action step: Seek out colleagues or create a community of women of color for mutual support.
Address violations immediately
Don't let boundary violations go unchecked—address them respectfully and directly.
Action step: Develop scripts to handle these situations, such as "I feel uncomfortable when you do [X], and I'd appreciate it if it stops."
Seek professional help when needed
If these challenges become overwhelming, consider seeking professional support from a therapist specializing in racial trauma.
Action step: Find a therapist who understands the intersectionality of race and mental health.
Conclusion
Advocating for yourself is essential to protecting your mental health and establishing boundaries. Using these steps, you can create a space where you are respected and empowered, both professionally and personally. Remember, your well-being matters; you deserve to thrive in environments that honor your worth. Feel free to book a discovery call!
Dr. Lauren McClenney-Rosenstein, Neuro-Holistic Life Coach & Educational Therapist
Dr. Lauren, founder of Resilience Unlimited, is a seasoned educator, life coach, and entrepreneur, bringing unparalleled expertise to the organization. As a black woman with ADHD, she profoundly understands diverse challenges, covering trauma healing, education, parenting, and more. With over twelve years of experience internationally and domestically, Dr. Lauren prioritizes transformative journeys for families and women of color, emphasizing growth over survival. Committed to personal transformation, she guides clients with a compassionate, non-judgmental approach tailored to their unique needs. Embark on your journey to success with Dr. Lauren as your empowering guide at Resilience Unlimited.
