Written by LaShawna Epps, Christian Mindset Coach
LaShawna Epps, Founder of A BeYOUtiful Life℠ LLC, empowers women to break free from mindset limitations, increase self-awareness, and cultivate sustainable stress management practices through coaching, workshops, live events, and more, enabling them to transform to live fulfilling lives by embracing their true worth as CEOs of their destinies.
Finding purpose in pain requires a shift in perspective. Life has a way of challenging us in ways we never expected through experiences we wish we could forget. Often, the worst thing that has ever happened to you could be the very thing that unlocks your purpose.
That might sound like a radical thought, but if you shift your perspective, it begins to make sense on a deeper level. Instead of asking, "Why is this happening to me?" try asking, "What am I meant to learn from this, and how can I use it to help it to help others?"
Reframing your story: From victim to victor
Wayne Dyer’s quote, “When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change,” has profoundly influenced my life. Along with my faith in God, it has helped me shift my mindset, remain open, and embrace new perspectives, leading to incredible experiences and freeing me from a victim mentality.
The way you tell your story matters. If you tell it from a place of victimization and defeat, you stay stuck. But if you tell it as a victor, you offer encouragement, wisdom, and a blueprint for others. Your pain can serve two powerful purposes:
Encouraging others: By sharing how you overcame adversity, you inspire someone who is struggling.
Preventing others from suffering the same fate: Your experience can serve as a warning, a lesson, a guide, or a testimony to help others navigate similar challenges.
Your pain has a purpose, but only if you choose to see it that way! You always get to decide the meaning you assign to any experience!
Healing starts with you
While ministering to others, I’ve often said, “The trauma may not have been your fault, but healing is your responsibility.” No one can work out of you what’s inside of you but you!
We are here to serve others, but before we can do that, we must first heal ourselves. Avoiding your pain won’t make it disappear; it will only delay the transformation that is waiting on the other side and cause internal suffering that gets played out in real life. The very thing you are avoiding, the experience you wish never happened, may hold the key to the greatest sense of purpose you will ever know.
Finding purpose and light in the darkness
Don’t waste your pain! Process it. Heal from it. Then use it. There is always a lesson, a gift, or a revelation within every traumatic experience. It might take time to uncover, but it is there.
A relatable human experience that illustrates this concept is overcoming rejection, which, in the beginning, is very painful.
Imagine pouring your heart into an opportunity, a job, a relationship, or a dream only to be met with a firm no. Initially, it feels like a failure, like a door slammed shut in your face like you’re not enough.
But when you shift your perspective, that rejection can be seen as redirection. Maybe that job wasn’t aligned with your purpose. Maybe that relationship was protecting you from heartache. Maybe that closed door was making room for something far greater.
For me, learning to see rejection through this lens, along with my faith and trust in God’s plan and purpose for my life, has transformed my experiences. Instead of feeling defeated, I now trust that every “no” is guiding me toward a better “yes.” Amen!
Pain is universal, and no one is exempt from it! But suffering is a choice because you can choose to heal and free yourself from its bondage. Every hardship contains a hidden wisdom meant to guide you toward growth, strength, and, ultimately, your purpose. However, you must be open to this perspective.
From imprisonment to freedom
What imprisons us also holds the key to our freedom. The very thing that has caused you pain could be the thing that leads you to a life of meaning and impact. But transformation does not happen in isolation. Ask for help. Accept support. Healing is not a journey meant to be walked alone. By embracing your struggles(yes, I said embracing), processing the emotions attached to them, healing from them, and using them to serve others, you transform pain into purpose. And in doing so, you don’t just change your life; you change the lives of those around you! One person can’t change the world, but one person can help change another person, hence the phrase, ‘The world changes one person at a time.’ Healing yourself is the first intentional action step in preparing to help one person.
Your purpose is waiting. Are you ready to step into it?
Take the first step
Now is the time to shift your perspective, embrace your journey, and turn your pain into purpose and power! If you're ready to heal, grow, and discover your purpose, take action today by contacting me for a free 20-minute discovery call. Let’s work together to navigate your path and create the life you truly desire!
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LaShawna Epps, Christian Mindset Coach
LaShawna Epps, CEO of A BeYOUtiful Life℠ LLC, is a highly-rated mindset coach and speaker who boldly transitioned from corporate after 24 years to fulfill her calling: aiding high-achieving, ambitious women trapped in cycles of constant stress, overwhelm, and self-doubt. Her mission is to guide them to authentic fulfillment and profound transformation through mindset rewiring, enhancing self-awareness, and aligning with their divine purpose. She also collaborates with groups and organizations, advocating for the importance of mental, physical, and emotional health in combating stress holistically through diverse platforms such as speaking events, coaching, workshops, and more, igniting change while inspiring others to live purposefully.
