Written by: Faith Kayiwa Nababi, Executive Contributor
Executive Contributors at Brainz Magazine are handpicked and invited to contribute because of their knowledge and valuable insight within their area of expertise.
Let's talk about the growth journey and why we feel uncomfortable and scared to attempt to heal our emotional wounds.
1. We think that healing and growth or change happen quickly.
This is what we are sold.
...how to lose weight fast...how to make money quickly...how to grow hair fast... But all growth, all healing, and all emergence are incremental.
2. Growth happens very slowly, and only if there's consistency.
Things take time to grow. We must tend to the said growth. It doesn't just happen.
3. Healing hurts. This is when we will likely give up because it's tough to keep reliving the pain, helplessness, terror, embarrassment, guilt and shame. The truth is that you will feel worse before you feel better at different points in time.
But this is too great a task to be accomplished by ourselves alone. No one heals alone. Relational wounds must be healed through others. They cannot be cured by themselves.
4. Look at what is growing instead of looking for what's not there.
Even if it seems small and inconsequential – as long as you have consistently tended to it, it counts.
5. Resist comparing your journey. When we start comparing our lives to others, it is easy to feel disappointed in ourselves and our progress so far.
Therefore, set goals for yourself and try to improve your own personal best. Achieving these goals will help you establish a set of experiences separate from others' expectations. To put it succinctly – grow on your own terms.
6. There's no tidy ending; growth or emotional healing is not a hero's journey. No one knows what will happen next or when it will end.
Remember your uniqueness.
If you are interested in mental health and resources to care for yourself and/or loved ones, please get in touch. The best way to connect with me is through my email.
Faith Kayiwa Nababi, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
Entrepreneur, Organisational Consultant, and Mental Wellness Advocate. Founder of Tailormade Consultancy, Faith helps leaders navigate through today's increasingly diverse corporate headaches. These include onboarding, retaining talent, intercultural communication, conflict management, building partnerships, and change management. Faith is passionate about celebrating your employees’ cultural differences and truly empowering your team to do and feel their best at work, no matter what cultural groups they may claim. What drives her work is a deep concern with lessening mental health suffering in the workplace, specifically for migrants and refugees, through the prevention, care, and treatment of mental illness.
