Written by Eileen Borski, Therapist
Eileen Borski is a therapist who specializes in providing brain-based care to individuals to address roadblocks in career, academics, sports, creativity and relationships. Her approach includes techniques that influence brain patterns using EMDR (eye movement desensitization and reprocessing) and neurofeedback.
Negative self-talk can feel like a constant companion, whispering doubts and magnifying fears. These inner conversations can impact your mood, self-esteem, and physical well-being. The good news is you have the power to change the narrative. Here are five practical strategies to help you stop those negative conversations in your head and shift toward a more positive mindset.
Identify your triggers
The first step in silencing negative self-talk is recognizing what triggers it. Take note of the situations, environments, or people that often lead to these inner dialogues. Are you more prone to negative thoughts after a stressful day at work, during social gatherings, or when alone? Identifying your triggers can help you anticipate and prepare for situations where negative self-talk is more likely to occur—a crucial awareness to break the cycle and respond with intention rather than automatically spiraling into negativity. [i]
Related: Understanding Mental Health Triggers
Challenge your thoughts
Remember, just because a thought crosses your mind does not mean it is true. When negative thoughts arise, challenge them by asking yourself, "Is this thought based on facts or feelings?" or "What rational proof do I have that supports or refutes this belief?" Cognitive restructuring empowers you to look for alternative explanations and consider more rational perspectives. By replacing irrational thoughts with realistic, compassionate self-talk, you can regain influence over your inner narrative and build resilience.
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Practice mindfulness
Mindfulness involves staying in the moment with full presence and observing but not judging your thoughts. When you engage in negative self-talk, pause, and acknowledge it without trying to push it away. You might say, "I notice I'm having the thought that I'm not good enough." This acknowledgment creates a space between you and the thought, allowing you to view it objectively rather than getting swept up. Regular mindfulness practices such as meditation, deep breathing, or even mindful walking can strengthen your ability to observe your thoughts without becoming overwhelmed.
Use positive affirmations to stop negative self-talk
Positive affirmations can help rewire your brain and cultivate a more optimistic mindset. While it may feel strange at first, repeating affirmations like "I am capable," "I deserve happiness," or "I am enough" can gradually shift your thinking patterns. The key is to choose affirmations that resonate with you and feel believable. Incorporating these statements into your daily routine—whether spoken aloud, written down, or mentally repeated—can make them more effective in countering negative self-talk. [ii]
Related: The Power of Positive Affirmations
Seek support when needed
If negative conversations in your head become persistent and interfere with your daily life, remember that it is okay to seek professional help. Therapies such as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) or Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) can provide relief by helping you address the underlying causes of negative self-talk and develop healthier thinking patterns. Additionally, innovative approaches like IASIS Microcurrent Neurofeedback can help calm the nervous system and reduce the intensity of negative thoughts, allowing you to regain balance and control.
Final Thoughts
Remember, changing your inner dialogue is a gradual process. By identifying triggers, challenging negative thoughts, practicing mindfulness, using affirmations, and seeking support, when necessary, you can take proactive steps to stop the negative conversations in your head. Every small step brings you closer to a more positive and empowered mindset. Be patient with yourself and understand that change takes time.
Start your journey today
Take the first step towards understanding how negative self-talk is holding you back. Seek support for your brain and mental health goals by checking out the benefits of neurocounseling on my website. If you are ready to embark on a journey of change, book a free 15-minute consultation to discuss your goals. Eileen provides in person care in Montgomery, TX and via telehealth in the state of Texas, South Carolina, Florida, and New Hampshire.
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Eileen Borski, Therapist
Eileen Borski is a highly-specialized mental health provider focused on modern, evidenced based interventions to improve brain function. The neurocounseling techniques focus on resetting overstimulated areas of the brain and promoting metabolic clearance in the brain. She is the owner and founder of Authentic Brain Solutions providing licensed professional mental health care in person in Montgomery, Texas and virtually in Texas, Florida, South Carolina and New Hampshire.
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