For the first half of her career, Debra Whitson was a prosecutor, and she spent the latter half specializing in Matrimonial and Family Law. She is an experienced mediator and collaborative divorce practitioner as well as a recognized expert in working with victims of domestic violence.
Navigating the first few holidays or special occasions after a divorce can be challenging, but it's important to maintain a sense of normalcy and kindness for the sake of your children. Encouraging your children to give thoughtful gifts to your ex-spouse can foster a positive co-parenting relationship and show that you respect their other parent. Here are five meaningful gift ideas that your children can give to their mom or dad, making the occasion special and harmonious.
1. Personalized gifts
Personalized gifts are a great way to show thoughtfulness and care. They allow your children to create something unique and memorable for their parents.
Photo album or frame
Help your children compile a photo album or create a photo frame with their favourite pictures of times spent with their other parent. This can be a touching reminder of cherished moments and shared experiences.
Custom jewelry or accessories
Personalized jewelry, such as a bracelet or necklace with the children’s birthstones, initials, or a special date, can be a beautiful and meaningful gift. Other options include custom keychains or engraved accessories that hold sentimental value.
Artwork or crafts
Encourage your children to create a piece of art or a craft project that reflects their love and appreciation. This could be a painting, a decorated picture frame, or a handmade card. The personal touch will surely be appreciated.
2. Experience gifts
Experience gifts create lasting memories and offer opportunities for shared activities, making them perfect for building stronger bonds.
Tickets to an event
If your ex-spouse enjoys concerts, theatre, sports, or other events, consider getting tickets for them to attend with your children. This allows them to enjoy a special outing together.
Gift certificates for activities
Think about activities your ex-spouse and children enjoy doing together. This could be a gift certificate for a favourite restaurant, a local amusement park, a movie theatre, or even a family-friendly workshop or class.
Memberships or subscriptions
Consider giving a membership to a local museum, zoo, or aquarium, which can provide many opportunities for fun and educational outings. Alternatively, a subscription box related to their hobbies can be a delightful and ongoing gift.
3. Handwritten letters or notes
A heartfelt letter or note can be one of the most meaningful gifts, especially when it comes from the heart of a child.
Letters of appreciation
Encourage your children to write letters expressing their love, gratitude, and appreciation. These can be simple notes or more elaborate letters sharing specific memories and feelings.
Message jar
Help your children create a message jar filled with small notes, each containing a reason they love their other parent or a favourite memory. This jar can be a wonderful source of joy and positivity whenever it’s opened.
4. Practical gifts
Practical gifts can be very thoughtful and useful, showing that you and your children consider their daily needs and preferences.
Gift cards
A gift card to their favourite store, coffee shop, or online retailer can be a practical and appreciated gift, allowing them to choose something they truly want or need.
Home and kitchen gadgets
If your ex-spouse enjoys cooking or needs some new tools around the house, consider gadgets or small appliances that can make their life easier and more enjoyable. Examples include a new coffee maker, a kitchen gadget, or a cozy blanket for their living space.
Self-care items
Help your children put together a self-care package with items like scented candles, bath salts, skincare products, or a cozy robe. These items can encourage relaxation and self-care, which is important during stressful times.
5. Books and journals
Books and journals can be a thoughtful way to provide entertainment, inspiration, or a creative outlet.
Favourite genres or authors
Choose books by their favourite authors or within genres they love. This can provide hours of enjoyment and escape.
Personal development or hobbies
Consider books related to their hobbies or interests, or those that offer inspiration and personal growth.
Journals
A beautiful journal can be a wonderful gift, especially if accompanied by a heartfelt note from the children. It can be used for writing, drawing, or even as a gratitude journal.
Encouraging your children to give thoughtful gifts to your ex-spouse can foster a positive and respectful co-parenting relationship. It shows your children that kindness and consideration are important, even after a divorce. By choosing personalized, experience-based, practical, or heartfelt gifts, you help create a harmonious environment that benefits everyone involved. Remember, the goal is to support your children in expressing their love and appreciation for both parents, ensuring they feel secure and valued during this transitional time.
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Debra Whitson, Attorney, Mediator, Certified Divorce Specialist™
For the first half of her career, Debra Whitson was a prosecutor, and she spent the latter half specializing in Matrimonial and Family Law. She is an experienced mediator and collaborative divorce practitioner as well as a recognized expert in working with victims of domestic violence. Debra believes that legal battles are more harmful to families than helpful, and is passionate about helping people find ways to make their own decisions for their families, rather than leaving their outcomes in the hands of a stranger in a black robe. When court is unavoidable, Debra aims to educate and support people to make the legal process less costly, scary, uncertain, and stressful.
