Written by: Dolores Andrew, Executive Contributor
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It’s all about the lens through which we view our life circumstances.
It’s empowering and transforming to step back and look at our frustrations from a higher perspective.
1. Do you view the world with a more left-brained rather than right-brained approach, or vice versa? Is this causing you frustration?
Yin/yang and feminine/masculine are energies that describe our energetic traits. When we are more receptive, reflective, and inner thinking we are yin/feminine energy, right-brain focused, and creative. When we are yang/masculine energy we charge forward with rigid left-brain focus.
Both are essential energies for success in all aspects of our life and what we strive for is balance. If we are overly yang we may get frustrated pushing, pushing, pushing through something in our business with no headway being achieved.
Gaining this awareness opens up the lens and gives us a broader perspective. Maybe our tunnel vision has been keeping us stagnant.
2. We can also become frustrated and lack motivation when we focus too much on where we think we have gone wrong and what we consider is with our business. Maybe we compare ourselves to others and wonder why we can’t get the same results as them.
A shift in perspective to what we have achieved can turn this around. It is important to remember there are always people one or two steps ahead of us as well as one or two steps behind us. We gain inspiration from those ahead of us but we must remember that we also inspire others.
Reaching out to someone struggling with something we can help them with, is very sobering and can help us become more positive and grateful for what we have in our business.
Feelings of not belonging can creep in when we dwell on the negative. We may fall victim to the imposter syndrome. That ego voice in the head that tells us we are a fraud and not educated enough, smart enough, big enough, or whatever.
The ego which speaks these beliefs is both an enemy and a friend. In its seemingly negative form, it tells us all sorts of things to keep us small and under our self-made inner glass ceiling. It’s our perceived safety zone and all that we feel capable of.
But the imposter is just our own inner talk and can be quietened. We all know how not to talk to others lest we offend them, but often we don’t look at how we talk to ourselves.
Words carry energy and can wound. When our imposter ego-mind tells us, we are a fraud and will be found out, we now we are holding this as a belief. And our actions are fuelled by our beliefs.
The simplest way to consciously work with our imposter is to become aware of where we are sabotaging ourselves. Do we always seem to get to the same point in business/relationships/life in general and then it all goes belly up? Are there patterns?
When we discover those patterns we can change the beliefs that limit us. Our excuses often masquerade as limiting beliefs so next time you make an excusing look and see if, in fact, it’s a limiting belief in disguise!
We may find from doing inner work that we are not in fact following our own dream in our business and instead, we are chasing someone else’s.
When we start looking at our story around our frustrations, looking at WHY we are doing what we are doing is hugely beneficial.
It’s said If your WHY doesn’t make you cry then it’s not your WHY!
When we do the exercise of Finding Our Why, we delve into the emotional realm, the essence of our being. We bypass the cognitive left brain and get into our juicy creative potential.
We reengage the cognitive left-brain later to bring our WHY to fruition and our projects to the world.
3. We can get frustrated with others if we feel they are not doing a job “well enough” or to our standards. This can happen when working in a team or in fact with family members or partners.
We all have our strengths as well as our perceived weaknesses, which in fact are better called the “things we don’t much like doing!”. As children we find we either like or don’t like Math. Math is something, of course, we can get help with and get better at but, in the larger scheme of life, we may choose a career path where Math doesn’t get a look in, or if it does, we are happy to pay someone does this work for us!
When we work from our strengths as opposed to our perceived weaknesses, we are likely working from our passion and are more aligned with our purpose. We will be more content with life and will be less judgmental and accepting of others.
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Dolores Andrew, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
Dolores Andrew is an All-Star Accredited Lifestyle Leader in Holistic Life Coaching. Her personal coaching sessions and Corporate Training programmes are tailored to her client’s unique requirements. Dolores supports people to break through their personal barriers and reach their full potential, whatever that means to them. She supports them to reassess their values, effectively navigate their emotions and live their lives aligned with their authentic selves.
