As a Life Mastery Certified Coach®, Susan integrates spirituality with practicality, guiding women to discover their unique Soul Goal™ and chart a personal path to success and happiness. Unlock your inner wisdom, align your heart with your mind, and uncover actionable steps that resonate with your authentic self.
Ever find yourself surrounded by people yet feeling utterly alone? It's a curious paradox of modern life. Despite the bustling crowds and constant chatter, the sense of isolation can still creep in, gnawing away at our sense of connection. But here's the thing: it's not our external circumstances that dictate this feeling of aloneness; it's the state of our minds.
Many of us, myself included, are experts at keeping things bottled up inside. We don't always feel comfortable sharing our thoughts and feelings unprompted. It's only when someone genuinely cares enough to ask, to probe beyond the surface-level niceties, that we start to open up. That's when the floodgates of honesty burst open, and we finally feel seen and heard.
So, I challenge you: who in your life could use a friend to ask, "How are you?" And I don't mean the perfunctory, "I'm fine, thanks" response. I mean a sincere inquiry coupled with the time and patience to truly listen. Because let's face it, we all crave that genuine connection, that opportunity to lay bare our unspoken thoughts and feelings.
5 steps to help break through someone’s loneliness
1. Reach out intentionally
Think of someone in your life who might need a listening ear or a caring presence. Send a thoughtful message or give them a call; l do not ask for anything but simply check in with them. The key is to show genuine interest in their well-being.
2. Ask open-ended questions
Move beyond surface-level conversation by asking questions that invite deeper sharing. Instead of "How are you?" try "What’s been on your mind lately?" or "What’s something you’ve been excited or challenged by recently?" These questions encourage meaningful dialogue.
3. Listen without judgment
When someone opens up, give them your full attention. Avoid jumping in with advice or solutions unless they ask. Sometimes, just being heard is enough. Practice active listening by nodding, maintaining eye contact, and offering affirming responses like, "That sounds really hard," or "Tell me more."
4. Share your own vulnerabilities
Connection is a two-way street. Be willing to share your own struggles or thoughts. Vulnerability invites vulnerability. When you open up, it creates a safe space for the other person to do the same, deepening the bond between you.
5. Follow up and stay connected
True connection is built over time. After your initial conversation, follow up to see how they’re
doing. A quick text or call to check in shows you care and helps maintain the connection.
When you take the time to be present and listen with an open heart, something magical happens. Not only do you offer solace to someone who may be struggling with their own sense of loneliness, but you also realize that you're not alone either. We all carry our burdens, our unexpressed emotions, but when we share them with honesty and vulnerability, the weight becomes a little lighter.
The wise woman says
Let's break through the facade of surface-level interactions. Let's be the kind of friends who aren't afraid to ask the tough questions and hold space for the answers. Because in that space of genuine connection, we find solace, understanding, and the reminder that we're all in this together.
Susan F. Moody Intuitive Business, Life, and Success Coach
Susan F. Moody, Wise Woman, is dedicated to empowering women to tap into their own inner wisdom and discover the power of intentional living. Along her personal journey, Susan became a wisdom seeker looking for ways to connect with the divine for inspiration and guidance. She started working with the I Ching, angel cards, wisdom cards, runes and pendulum work over 20 years ago and now offers these spiritual insight tools as an option to her clients. She has also developed a tangible technique, the Soul Goal™ finder, to help clients answer the contemplative question “Why am I here?”
