Written by Martina Iven, Life Coach & Founder
Martina Iven is a life coach and communications strategist who wants to help you rebel against perfectionism and break free from the pressure of having to achieve and perform. With her own concept Happy Points, she inspires you to live your life based on what provides genuine bliss instead of what just looks good on paper.
Happiness is a universal desire, yet its path is often unclear. In this article, life coach Martina Iven from Happy Points will share her insights, acknowledging the personal journey each individual takes in their pursuit of happiness. She will provide clarity on the 5 essential steps that one must follow to create the right conditions in life for happiness to occur, understanding that this journey is unique for each person.
Throughout our lives, we are taught that achieving success will lead to happiness. We often associate happiness with our accomplishments, status, and the luxurious lifestyles we desire. We believe that the more we achieve, the higher we climb in society and the more prestige we will have, ultimately leading to a happier life.
The problem is that this belief doesn't just make us unhappy; it robs us of our joy and satisfaction in life. The relentless pursuit of perfection and the constant pressure to achieve can lead to stress, anxiety, depression, burnout, and a perpetual feeling that something crucial is missing in life.
Redefining happiness
It is a genuine paradox that we must confront – the prevailing view of happiness needs to be challenged.
But how do we begin? How can we redefine happiness, fill in the gaps, and create a life that brings joy and vitality? How do we establish a life that fosters our well-being?
It is essential to understand that happiness is not a universal destination that applies to everyone. There is no specific location marked on the map where we can all go and live happily ever after. Each person derives happiness from different things and experiences joy in different ways.
Moreover, it is crucial to note that happiness is not a permanent state but rather a fleeting emotion that comes and goes. It’s about raising one's happiness level to the extent that negative emotions don't occur as often or last as long.
A 5-step roadmap
Furthermore, I believe that happiness is not something that we can simply pursue as a pre-existing state. Rather, it is an ability that we possess. This ability enables us to cultivate the right conditions in our lives that can give rise to our basic inner happiness. In light of this, I have developed the Happy Points method that outlines five key steps that one can take to achieve this state of being.
Step 1: Happy map
It's important to understand where you are to know where you're going. In this initial step, we will analyze your current life situation. We will identify the areas where you are doing well and the areas that present challenges. We will also focus on gratitude, as I believe being satisfied with what you have today is crucial to achieving satisfaction in the future.
Step 2: Happy points
Happy Points refer to the values, dreams, and abilities that one develops in life to experience inner happiness. By utilizing one's abilities and being guided by one's true values and aspirations, one can make conscious choices in one's daily life that lead to personal growth, prosperity, security, and overall happiness.
We provide customized exercises to uncover the real you, devoid of politically correct information or opinions from those around you. We aim to help you discover who you truly want to be, independent of external expectations and judgments.
Step 3: Happy plan
In a collaborative effort, we establish a clear objective for our partnership. We place significant emphasis on linking this objective to your Happy Points, which leads to long-term and sustainable change. A goal that is not aligned with your aspirations is less likely to endure over time or have a significant impact on your overall well-being.
Step 4: Happy mindset
You've probably heard it before, but why change a winning formula?
A resilient and optimistic mindset is key to navigating change. By training your mindset, you can more easily overcome obstacles and make the journey easier and more fun.
Step 5: Happy learning
One crucial aspect of the method is to start living as the person you aspire to be as soon as possible. It's alright if you haven't figured everything out yet because making mistakes and learning from them is part of the process. Once you have identified a genuine Happy Point, you can begin living by it and slowly transform your habits and behaviors over time.
Throughout every step of the process, I will be with you, but the journey towards change begins with you and no one else. If you truly desire to experience happiness, you must redefine the meaning of happiness and make the decision to learn how to create the right conditions in your life for happiness to occur.
Begin your transformational journey today by booking a free session with me. When you're ready, I'm here for you.
It’s time to take the next step!
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Martina Iven, Life Coach & Founder
Martina Iven is a life coach and communications strategist who wants to help you rebel against perfectionism and break free from the pressure of having to achieve and perform. With her own concept Happy Points, she inspires you to live your life based on what provides genuine bliss instead of what just looks good on paper. The concept is created out of her own transformational journey when she left her top job as a global PR manager with the wish to find her true self. As a coach she finally felt at home and is now on the mission to spread her message: Happy Points instead of merit points.
