Trea Tijmens, the CEO of www.successmatch.ch, is an international elite matchmaker and award-winning dating expert and coach.
The fall may well be the best season of the year to find a partner for a lasting relationship. Get my best fall dating tips based on over 19 years of experience as an elite matchmaker and dating coach. As the leaves turn vibrant shades of yellow, orange, and red and temperatures start to fall, singles are looking for lasting love. There’s a palpable switch on dating apps from casual and fun to cozy and warm. There’s a reason we say people “fall in love!”
The appeal of fall dating
If you’re trying to meet someone new or have just started dating that handsome man or charming woman, fall offers the perfect setting to build a romantic atmosphere and connect on a deeper level.
The golden landscapes offer a unique background for leisurely walks with a cup of coffee. You can have fun apple picking or pumpkin carving or, as you get to know each other better, get cozy while enjoying hot chocolate at home. This is the ideal time to slow down and focus on creating meaningful connections.
The cuffing season trap
The colder time of the year has been dubbed the cuffing season. This is the period when singles feel a desire to couple up and cuddle up. While this can create opportunities to meet someone special, it can also lead to rushed decisions or relationships based on seasonal convenience rather than true compatibility.
Here’s a tip from the dating expert: check your motivations. Are you looking for a “good enough” partner, someone to cuddle with on those cold nights? Or are you looking for the right person to spend the rest of your life with? If the latter is true, focus on finding someone who aligns with your life’s goals and values.
Tips for fall dating success
Keeping dating momentum in the fall is worth the effort! You have a better chance of getting matches that are relationship-oriented. And long evenings in cozy cafes create the perfect setting for those deep, get-to-know-each-other conversations. Here are some of my best fall dating tips:
Embrace seasonal activities
As a dating coach working with many Swiss singles, I count myself lucky. This country offers a multitude of opportunities for fall dating. The Swiss Alps look spectacular at this time of the year, inviting couples to hike or take leisurely walks in the valleys or among the vineyards.
For a first date in a big city, choose a charming restaurant and try your first fondue of the cold season. Or hop on a local train and visit a pumpkin festival. Regardless of where you live, if you experience the change of seasons at this time of the year, you’ll surely find romantic opportunities to take your date out to.
Approach outdoor dates like a pro
The fall weather is unpredictable, but that doesn’t mean you can’t go on outdoor adventures with your date. Check the weather forecast and make good use of those warm and sunny spells. Dress appropriately for the occasion. Have an umbrella with you, especially as a gentleman meeting a woman for the first time.
Do you have a backup plan for indoor activities? Here are some to inspire you:
Hot chocolate cafe in a picturesque corner of the Old Town
Discussion-inspiring art exhibition or photo gallery
The evergreen: movie night at an arthouse cinema
Don't neglect your social calendar
Yes, it’s tempting to snuggle under a wool blanket with a phone and get lost swiping on dating apps in the hope of finding someone nice. But don’t abandon your social life completely when temperatures drop! To increase your dating odds, continue attending social events regularly.
Try to select meetups with a good gender mix to increase your chances of meeting interesting singles. Anything that gives the option to talk to people is good; think of discussion clubs, networking events, art openings, and cooking lessons.
Stay healthy in the cold months
Nobody wants to wake up with a fever when they have a great date lined up in the evening. With viruses circulating, be mindful of your health during dates. Eat well, get enough sleep and rest and always carry a hand sanitizer.
If you’re feeling under the weather, you can always schedule a video date so you don't miss the opportunity to see that fantastic single man or woman you’ve just met online.
Final thoughts on fall dating
Fall is a wonderful time for romantic dates, offering the perfect blend of coziness and adventure. Make sure to check in with yourself regarding your long-term goals and don’t rush into a relationship just to secure a partner before winter starts. Enjoy the process of getting to know someone at your own pace. Take advantage of seasonal activities and make the most of what nature has to offer to create a perfect setting for your fall dating.
Looking for love without success so far? Get in touch with me for a free intro call and find out how matchmaking or dating coaching can help you find your successful match.
Trea Tijmens, Elite Matchmaker and Dating Coach
Trea Tijmens, the CEO of www.successmatch.ch, is an international elite matchmaker and award-winning dating expert and coach.
Trea believes that to love and be loved is a basic human need and that people do not thrive without love.
A former head-hunter, she founded SuccessMatch in 2005. Based in Switzerland, she works with local and international clientele and prides herself on her high success rate.
Trea is passionate about helping her highly international single professional clientele transition from where they are today to where they want to be; in a happy, fulfilling, lasting relationship with the right partner.
