Written by: Grace Jones, Executive Contributor
Executive Contributors at Brainz Magazine are handpicked and invited to contribute because of their knowledge and valuable insight within their area of expertise.
Have you ever had that sneaky feeling that you're a fake, even when you've accomplished great things? Well, you're not alone. Many of us battle with something called Imposter Syndrome. Why can't we see ourselves the way others do, what might be causing it, and how can we back control of our true selves – read on to find out the real deal.
What is imposter syndrome?
It's like having a constant "I'm not good enough" tape playing in your head. Even if you do have the skills and accomplishments, it's that persistent voice that says, "You don't belong here." And here's the kicker: It often affects high-achievers the most!
Why can't we see ourselves like others do?
Isn't it funny how others seem to see us in a better light than we see ourselves? Well, that's because our self-perception and how others see us can be a bit like two different movies playing at the same time.
You see, our brains sometimes trick us. We might underestimate our talents, while everyone else can see our strengths. It's like looking in a funhouse mirror – things are distorted.
Also, we love to compare ourselves to others, especially those who seem super successful. But there is a major catch with that, because we see their “highlights reel”, not the bloopers! It can make us feel like impostors, and that we're not measuring up.
Why does imposter syndrome happen?
Some of the triggers can include:
1. Perfectionism
When we set the bar impossibly high and expect to reach it every time, it's easy to feel like a fraud when we don't.
2. Overcoming Adversity
Sometimes, we chalk up our achievements to luck or being in the right place at the right time instead of acknowledging our skills.
3. Societal Pressure
The world around us can put pressure on us to conform to certain standards, making us doubt ourselves (even when we shouldn't.)
The aftermath of imposter syndrome
Now, let's talk about the consequences. Imposter Syndrome isn't just a mental hiccup, it can have real effects on our lives.
The Emotional Rollercoaster
It can lead to anxiety, stress, and feeling down about ourselves.
Career Roadblocks
Our fear of being "found out" can prevent us from taking on new challenges, promotions, or pursuing our dreams.
Rocky Relationships
All that self-doubt can seep into our personal connections, making it tough to connect with others.
Time to reclaim your awesome self
Enough about the problem – let's talk Solutions!
1. Self-awareness
Start by recognizing those moments when Imposter Syndrome rears its head. Awareness is half the battle.
2. Be Your Own Best Friend
Treat yourself with the same kindness and encouragement you would offer a friend. You're doing better than you think!
3. Goals, Not Gold Medals
Shift your focus from perfection to progress. Set realistic goals and celebrate your wins along the way.
4. Lean on Others
Reach out to mentors, friends, or professionals who can give you a boost when you need it.
5. Pen and Paper Power
Try journalling, or repeating positive affirmations to reframe those negative thoughts.
Conclusion
So, there you have it! Imposter Syndrome might be a sneaky beast, but it's not unbeatable. By understanding it, showing yourself some love, setting achievable goals, seeking support, and using helpful tools, you really can reclaim your true identity and realize that you are not an imposter – you're the real deal!
Grace Jones, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
Grace Jones is a former freelance IT Consultant who is very familiar with the stress of working in demanding environments. Ten years ago she chose to study hypnotherapy to better understand how our thoughts influence our behaviour, habits and results. She went on to create the RISE Resilience system, designed to help people understand and effectively manage the increasing levels of stress, anxiety and burnout that so many are struggling with in this post-COVID world. Today she is an enthusiastic speaker, trainer and breathing coach ‒ "Training your brain to work for you..."
