Gaëlle is a renowned Visibility & Confidence Coach empowering senior women leaders to be seen, recognised, and valued. She is the founder of A Rockstar Mindset, co-author of Women Making A Difference, and UK Ambassador for Psychologies magazine. Gaëlle has been featured in NBC, CBS, and Psychologies.
Do you ever wonder how women at the top of their careers manage to remain highly visible and successful? No matter the time, culture, or new trend, they’re always creating, evolving, and succeeding.
So, what’s their secret to embracing their visibility so well? Let’s dive into the topic, shall we?
For many women leaders, visibility is a double-edged sword.
On the one hand, it brings recognition and influence; on the other, it triggers judgment, scrutiny, and potential failure. It’s perceived as a risk, like walking on a tightrope, because for most of us, it means stepping into the unknown and losing control.
However, when you can turn the tightrope into a grounded and tailored path, you can embrace being visible with authenticity.
“Fake it until you make it” is no longer the go-to solution. It reinforces the feeling of being an imposter, and honestly, Gorgeous, you don’t want to fall into this trap after all the hard work you’ve done.
So, what are the keys to mastering visibility? Let’s dive into the four essential elements:
1. Safety to feel seen
Safety is the key to speaking and sharing your ideas, desires, and projects without being judged.
The problem is that women have been conditioned to be quiet and not outspoken, to work hard, not to promote themselves, to do the work, and not be rewarded for it. Am I wrong? I don’t think so. As Tara Mohr said, “We are liberated, but we’re not empowered,” and I agree.
Gorgeous, if you don’t feel safe being visible, either you create this space for yourself, or you develop safety within yourself. What’s the result of cultivating safety within yourself? No matter where you are, you’re confident, poised, and at ease. Your energy is calm and grounded.
How can you start? You assess, recognize, and break free.
You assess your environment.
You recognize the challenges.
You break free.
How? By shifting your mindset.
2. Mindset: Break free from conditioning
How can you break free? The second key to being visible is challenging the status quo and freeing yourself from conditioning, programming, and societal expectations.
You release your limiting beliefs, such as your fear of failure, and any resistance your intellect uses to keep you in your comfort zone, such as excuses, procrastination, disorganization, or lack of motivation.
The steps to shifting your mindset and making it second nature are curiosity, repetition, consistency, and integration. It’s a process of unlearning, learning, and integrating. The integration phase happens with personal development.
3. Personal development: The journey to self-mastery
Diving into personal development is a journey that you’ll love! I never get bored of learning more about myself. The more you say yes to this adventure, the more signs and opportunities will appear in your reality, confirming that you’re on the right path.
These are self-mastery skills and principles rooted in personal development that will anchor your new thinking in your body and mind. That’s why it’s essential to learn them to master your visibility.
For example, you want to let go of your fear of judgment.
How? By refusing to please people. Why? Because you can’t please everyone. We are 7 billion people on this planet, and enough people are already taking you for granted.
But your decision will be challenged by people in your circle, and it’s guaranteed. Some will be okay with your choice, and some will not.
So, this is the crux of the issue: you must have something solid under your feet to back up your decision and transform it into a new boundary.
This can happen when you learn the principles of personal development. In this case, for instance, you can maintain the strength of your decision by learning this:
Each of us has a system of beliefs and values that impacts our judgment and view of the world. It’s impossible to fit into someone else’s system because we are totally unaware of it.
Secondly, your decision will challenge people’s comfort zones and their perceptions. Knowing this in advance puts you in a position to choose who you can confide in, trust, and rely on for support with this new choice. Although it may reduce your circle of friends, you’ll surround yourself with people eager to see you grow and thrive.
Thirdly, by taking consistent small steps, you can build the confidence to back up your choices and decisions.
4. Confidence: Reclaiming your personal power
Let’s talk about confidence.
There are three types of confidence: the confidence you build by consistently practicing the same task until you master it, the confidence you gain by overcoming obstacles and challenges (building your resilience), and the inner confidence rooted in personal development.
Confidence through practice
The first type of confidence is the most widespread in the mainstream: the confidence built through practice. This type of confidence is relevant to some degree.
Confidence through overcoming challenges
The second type of confidence is always within us, but we have to work to remember it. Our brain does not track our successes or accomplishments; it tracks and remembers our mistakes and wrongdoings.
Gorgeous, you must remember how strong, resilient, and courageous you are. One of the easiest ways to do this is to carve out time for reflection, celebration, or journaling.
Inner confidence
The third type of confidence is earned through inner work and diving into personal development. Personally, it’s the one I love. Why? Because this confidence is unshakeable. No one can know you better than you because you’re committed to your self-growth.
When you have a deep knowledge of yourself, you’re not afraid to handle difficult people or heated conversations, and you can belong in any room.
Ultimately, these women may appear effortlessly visible, but in reality, it is a labor of love and steady determination to remain true to their values, stay authentic, and make an impact while inspiring more people.
If you want to elevate your leadership and master your visibility for continued success and impact, I invite you to book a Visibility Strategy session with me.
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Gaëlle Berruel, Visibility & Confidence Coach, Motivational Speaker
Gaëlle is a leader in visibility and confidence coaching for senior women leaders. Seven years ago, she hid behind her laptop, longing to help women be recognised for their work and value.
Without a roadmap to visibility from a place of authority and authenticity, she created one, becoming the fullest expression of herself: radiant, fulfilled, and unapologetic. Today, as the CEO of A Rockstar Mindset, she empowers women to be visible, recognised, and make an impact. Gaëlle is a multi-award-winning coach, a sought-after speaker, and a best-selling author featured in top global publications. Her mission: You're a diamond in the rough. Let me help you to become the Rockstar of your life.
