Written by: Dolores Andrew, Executive Contributor
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The symbol for the astrological sign of Pisces reminds me of our path through life with its two openings and a narrow tunnel in the middle.
And here’s why.
Picture this familiar scene … You are sailing along going through the motions of life, when out of the blue an obstacle hits you so hard you feel you’ll never see the light of day again.
You have entered the narrow tunnel!
AND it’s how we journey through these dark nights of the soul that shapes how we come out the other side. This is where the act of surrendering supports us, even if it feels like the walls are closing in, the choices are few, and it feels too hard.
Despite the fact that we’ve become accustomed to “instant” access to everything, and that if we don’t know the answer we “google” it, the fact is: WE CAN’T GOOGLE OUR WAY THROUGH LIFE’S CHALLENGES. .. we have to do the inner work to get there, regardless of the resistance.
When we hit a challenge, we often seek instant gratification or fire fight our way through, without looking at the bigger picture and what we want to achieve.
We scream:
“I want to change NOW”
“Doing this work is TOO HARD”
What we fail to realise is that often, the easiest way out is to surrender to what is.
1. Surrendering to the present moment
Surrendering in this case is not about giving up or, maybe it is, depending on how you look at it! The present moment is the only place where change can be affected, we can’t change the past and the future is influenced by the actions we take in each present moment.
A good question to ponder is:
“What if surrendering brings me the very thing I am chasing?”
Too often we give our power away to the future. We say: “When I feel like I belong, then I will be happy” or, “When I have that job, that’s when I will know I have made it.” But seizing the present moment, accepting it for what it is, makes it count.
2. Looking at the illusions of our stories
The act of surrendering helps us realise the illusions of the stories we tell ourselves. It gives us the opportunity to allow the walls we have built around us dissolve brick by brick. Each brick represents a different layer, including the beliefs, judgements, and the narrative of the inner saboteur.
When we break the constant stream of illusions it gives us a chance to just be. That is when we get a chance to breath and when fresh perspectives can flood in.
3. Obstacles as Teachers
When we hit obstacles, our inner voice may scream “I can’t handle this”? “Everything is falling apart”.
We can however choose to surrender, work through the obstacles, and allow ourselves an opportunity for growth.
Each time we look at our fear we allow it to show us the edge of our comfort zone.
The act of surrendering allows us the opportunity to journey beyond the fear, and out the other side. Once we stay on track and stick to our guns so to speak, we allow our new story to unfold in its own time, in its own way. What seemed like insurmountable challenges can dissolve.
It is not always easy to stay true to our authentic path, but it is possible. Here is my challenge to you...
Just for today... surrender to the present moment, trusting that as you journey through your challenges you will come out the other side… And that who you will have turned into – is your choice.
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Dolores Andrew, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
Dolores Andrew is an All-Star Accredited Lifestyle Leader in Holistic Life Coaching. Her personal coaching sessions and Corporate Training programmes are tailored to her client’s unique requirements. Dolores’ expertise supports people to break through their personal barriers and reach their full potential, whatever that means to them. She supports them to reassess their values, effectively navigate their emotions and live their lives aligned with their authentic selves.
