Written by: Michall J. Medina, Executive Contributor
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So many of us have a desire to live a better life with more joy, freedom and happiness. We have daily practices such as meditation, gratitude, journaling, and affirmations. We want to think positively and are trying everything we can to shift out negative self-talk. The truth is, while those practices are helpful to a certain extent, they won’t actually help you to make the deep, lasting and complete shift to a joy-filled life that you are looking for. Want to know the reason why? They don’t shift the core root of what’s manifesting the symptoms of negative self-talk and overthinking.
Anxiety, triggers, frustrations, insecurities and fears all stem from a core subconscious root, which is in essence, a perception of you and the world around you. If you don’t identify and resolve that core perception, you’re fighting an uphill battle trying to manage the symptoms. Meditation, gratitude, journaling, and affirmations do help with the symptoms, but there’s a reason why those methods haven’t helped you make that deep, lasting shift you’re wanting.
Here are three tips for how to create lasting inner shifts towards more freedom and joy:
1. Shift out of the victim mentality – So long as you believe that life is happening to you and not for you, you will never empower yourself to identify and shift what it is within you that’s manifesting your external circumstances. It can be so tempting to put the blame on something external for the way that you feel, but the truth is, the reason you are feeling and reacting the way you are is because of your own perception. You have the power to shift that perception and view the situation and circumstance in a different light. No one else can do that work for you, and as soon as you realize that your entire experience is within your power to shift, meaning the way you feel about your experience, then the sooner you can begin the process of moving into more expansion, joy and freedom.
2. Stop trying to fix yourself – There is nothing wrong with you, there is nothing to fix or release or get rid of within yourself. When you view yourself and your thoughts, feelings, and actions that way, you’re rejecting a part of yourself, and by rejecting that part of yourself, you only keep the thoughts, feelings and behaviors stuck in a cycle of reoccurrence. Once you’re able to see yourself as a whole and accept yourself completely, then and only then can you begin the process of uncovering and resolving the core subconscious root.
3. Allow yourself to feel your feelings – I’m sure you’ve heard this one so many times. There is a huge difference, though, between feeling your feelings from the head level versus the heart level. Let me explain. Normally when people feel their feelings, they’re feeling along with playing the story in their head of what happened and thinking thoughts around what happened such as “This isn’t fair” or “Why me?” or “How could someone do such a thing.” When you’re feeling your feelings this way, you’re also activating your left brain that is the analytical part of your brain, and as a result, you’re only reaffirming the same perceptions within your subconscious that is the root of you feeling the way you do in the first place. When you’re able to shift into the heart and completely quiet the mind, drop the story of what happened, and drop the thoughts and judgments around what happened, then you can actually start to process your feelings in an effective way – in a way that allows you to shift into a new perception of the situation and therefore resolve the core root.
Obviously, these three tips take time to implement, especially the first one of shifting out of the victim mentality because it’s been so deeply ingrained in us our entire life that life is happening to us, but if you can really make an effort to prioritize the conscious awareness of when you’re in the victim mentality, when you’re judging and rejecting a part of yourself, and when you’re feeling your feelings from the head level and not the heart level, then the more you can start to shift those habits and shift into a new way of relating to yourself and your experiences. And once you’re able to effortlessly shift and resolve any triggers that come up, that’s what opens the pathway to exponential growth and more freedom, joy and fulfillment.
Michall J. Medina, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
Michall J Medina is an expert in mindset strategies for resolving triggers. After having experienced a traumatic incident that triggered anxiety and depression, she left her engineering career and set out on a self-healing journey. Through years of training in various healing modalities in search of a cure, she discovered that the real issue was her mindset. Once she was able to align her mindset, she was able to resolve her own triggers effortlessly and permanently. Now she teaches these strategies to people all over the world so they can experience a life of ease and flow where the veil of confusion is lifted and opportunities come running for you to make your vision reality.
