Written by: Trea Tijmens, Executive Contributor
Executive Contributors at Brainz Magazine are handpicked and invited to contribute because of their knowledge and valuable insight within their area of expertise.
After over two years of Covid restrictions, many singles went into a sort of hibernation mode. Working from home likely took your daily outfits from polished office wear to yoga pants, sweatshirts, and little to no makeup. Time to give your dating life a fresh start. Do everything you need to look and feel like your best you again.
Dust the cobwebs off your dating skills
“Good enough” may have become the new normal with how we present ourselves, but the truth is if you’re looking for love, then good enough is not good enough. In the same way, you wouldn’t think kindly about someone who showed up to a date late, with a wrinkled shirt and messy hair, it’s important for you to also put your best foot forward when it comes to dating.
Getting back into dating can be challenging, but you know dating is a social skill so get some practice and go on some fun dates. A date is never a waste of time, even if you decide not to see each other again. Keep that in mind and allow yourself to enjoy the process.
3 tips to get ready for a new relationship
Coming back to dating after a long break can feel challenging on many levels. And it’s not all about your appearance. Sometimes deeper, more emotional things stand in your way to happiness. Here’s what to do to make space for a new relationship.
1. Remove the skeletons from your closet
You can’t start a new chapter in your life if the previous chapter(s) have not been properly closed. Sometimes singles believe they are ready to meet a life partner when in fact there are still strong emotional or physical connections to people from their past.
Cutting ties with an ex, friends with benefits, or a married work crush is necessary before you can start dating with a fresh slate. Take the time now to put those relationships in the past and for good.
2. Release emotional baggage
Emotional baggage can present itself in many ways, but it’s anything that you carry with you (positive and negative) from past relationships. Holding on to feelings of bitterness, regret, or in some cases nostalgia from past relationships can keep you from being present in new relationships.
If you find yourself comparing (positively or negatively!) then you haven’t fully let go of your emotional baggage. Accept that past relationships ended without assigning blame to one action or person and allow yourself to move on.
3. Open space for new love
Once you let go of old baggage you will (finally!) be ready for a fresh start. You’ll be able to be fully present and truly open to new people and new relationships you will start to attract people who are genuinely looking for that as well. You’d be surprised by how quickly people who have been single for years are able to find meaningful connections once they make amends with the past.
Dealing with the skeletons in your closet and parting ways with the baggage that you’ve been carrying with you, sometimes through multiple relationships, will bring you a sense of relief and help you find the love you’ve always dreamed of.
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Trea Tijmens, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
Trea Tijmens, the CEO of www.successmatch.ch is an international elite matchmaker and award-winning dating expert and coach. Trea believes that to love and be loved is a basic human need and that people do not thrive without love. A former head-hunter, she founded SuccessMatch in 2005. Based in Switzerland she works with a local and international clientele and prides herself on her high success rate. Trea is passionate about helping her highly international single professional clientele transition from where they are today, to where they want to be; in a happy, fulfilling, lasting relationship with the right partner!
